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23 Memes That Will Only Be Funny If You're Dark As F*ck.
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27 Utterly Random Memes Everyone Should Laugh At This Morning.
These hysterially funny memes are proof that mornings aren't all bad. This meme list is guaranteed to crack you up, even if you're not a morning person.
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Sam Smith opens up about body trauma with shirtless Instagram. Fans are here for it.
It's always refreshing when celebrities get honest about the food and body image issues they've struggled with throughout the years, particularly because it helps fight stigma and shame for others going through the same process.
The singer Sam Smith has been pretty open about his past struggles with food and self-image, and he got even more vulnerable with his fans on Wednesday in an Instagram post detailing his complicated relationship with pictures of himself.
He wrote about how in anticipation of past photo shoots, shirtless or clothed, he would starve himself and criticize every single body part.
"In the past if I have ever done a photo shoot with so much as a t-shirt on, I have starved myself for weeks in advance and then picked and prodded at every picture and then normally taken the picture down."
However, for this photo shoot, Smith decided to push himself past his toxic self-talk and try to view himself from the perspective of those who love him.
"Yesterday I decided to fight the fuck back. Reclaim my body and stop trying to change this chest and these hips and these curves that my mum and dad made and love so unconditionally. Some may take this as narcissistic and showing off but if you knew how much courage it took to do this and the body trauma I have experienced as a kid you wouldn’t think those things."
He then thanked his fans, loved ones, and photographer Ryan Fluger for giving him the courage to share this part of himself, and stated that the process of learning to love yourself is not linear.
"Thank you for helping me celebrate my body AS IT IS @ryanpfluger I have never felt safer than I did with you. I’ll always be at war with this bloody mirror but this shoot and this day was a step in the right fucking direction."
Hopefully, Smith is able to continue pushing his thought patterns towards self-acceptance, it's harder than it sounds but he's got a lot of people on his side.
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Mandy More speaks out on Instagram following allegations against ex-husband Ryan Adams.
On Wednesday, the New York Times dropped a story alleging 44-year-old folk musician Ryan Adams of psychological abuse against seven different women, one of whom is his ex-wife and fellow musician Mandy Moore.
In the report, Moore shared that Adams was controlling both of her career and their relationship, and that he would "wield his influence in damaging ways." She also said when they wrote songs together he would promise her studio time and then offer it to other women.
At one point, Moore remembered him saying, "You're not a real musician, because you don't play an instrument," and she shared that he acted in a "psychologically abusive manner" throughout their relationship.
"His controlling behavior essentially did block my ability to make new connections in the industry during a very pivotal and potentially lucrative time — my entire mid-to-late 20s," Moore told reporters.
Sadly, Moore's account of Adams character was echoed by the six other women, and now even more women are tweeting about negative experiences with the musician. His ex-fiance Megan Butterworth said he was "controlling" and "emotionally abusive" and that he digitally stalked and harassed her.
Another woman, a 20-year-old named Ava shared that Adams had "sexual conversations" with her when she was a minor. In lieu of the news, a handful of celebrities, particularly female musicians have been expressing their support for Moore and others who came forward.
Shortly after the article made the rounds, Adams posted a tweet framed as an apology that shows no remorse. In the tweet, he apologizes for the "unintentional hurt" he caused anyone, without taking any responsibility.
After his non-apology, he then went on to discredit the article and claim it painted him falsely.
Hours after Adams posted his defensive response, Moore made an Instagram post expressing support and solidarity with all the women who have come forward, both about Adams and in general.
She wrote:
"Speaking your truth can be painful and triggering but it’s always worth it. My heart is with all women who have suffered any sort of trauma or abuse. You are seen and heard. #sisterhoodforever"
Luckily, despite his protests, Moore has been receiving a lot of support for speaking out against her ex-husband.
I cannot wait to hear what music she has in store, now that she's free of his psychological BS.
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35 Memes For Anyone Who Doesn't Give a F*ck About Valentine's Day.
If you're single and just don't give a rip about Valentine's Day, you will definitely relate to these hilarious anti-Valentine's Day memes. This collection of memes will make you laugh harder than any of your loser exes. Laugh now, buy 50% off Valentine's candy tomorrow.
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Dictionary.com destroys transphobic troll who claimed 'they' can’t be a singular pronoun.
Dictionary.com defines "bigot" as "a person who is utterly intolerant of any differing creed, belief, or opinion."
The indispensable resource provided additional information when notorious pro-Trump troll (and literal voice of Hades in Hercules) James Woods decided to use his platform to continue hating trans people.
The actor-in-a-past-life, who has been accused of predatory behavior by Amber Tamblyn when she was a teen, tried to seem real smart and cool with his take on gender pronouns.
Woods, based on what I assume is his extensive knowledge on the history and evolution of the English language, insisted that plural gender pronouns for individuals is an invention of "hare-brained liberals."
In reality, according to the literal dictionary, "they" has been used to address individuals for centuries, and by some of the best writers who have ever written.
Woods isn't the first bigot to get burned by the dictionary.
Dictionary.com used its knowledge of the English language to introduce the perfect nickname for Mike Pence.
They also roasted Trump's misspelling of "collusion," a word he should know by now.
Dictionary.com never misses the opportunity to teach the president a word or two.
Dearest Dictionary:
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17 of the best adult jokes in kids movies. Disney is dirty.
Nothing beats watching one of your favorite movies from childhood as an adult and seeing it in a whole new light.
While children of course enjoy all the classics, it's extra fun when something is thrown in just for the adults. After all, the parents are paying for it. They're the ones dragging everyone to a movie theater or trying to find out how to download it Christmas morning--it only makes sense there should be something in it for them. While some people like to go overboard trying to find hidden subliminal sexual messages in kids movies, it's nicer to think the writers were just having a solid laugh with wordplay every now and then.
Recently, a Reddit thread challenged the internet by asking, "What's the best adult joke in a kid's movie?" and people delivered. Prepare for a nostalgia overload, it's time to turn on "Mulan."
1. Classic Disney, "kkeh0831."
In Toy Story, Bo Peep seductively tells Woody that she'll have someone else watch her sheep that night. In the same movie
"The term you're looking for is 'Space Ranger'."
"No, the word I'm looking for I can't say because there are preschool toys present!"
2. We all know what that is, "baohavan."
The scene in Shrek 2 when Puss In Boots is caught with "catnip"
3. Might be a stretch, but I support it "pattysmife."
Dude what about the scene where Farquad literally sets up to jerk it to the magic mirror?
4. Oh my god, yes, "Gottapost2c."
Old one: Hocus Pocus. We desire children. Bus driver "may take me a couple of tries but I don't think its going to be a problem."
5. Mulan is the best, "RedWestern."
In Mulan, Mushu sees a whole bunch of men hurrying down to the lake where Mulan is skinny dipping, and panics “There’s a couple things I know they’re bound to notice!”
That whole scene was one big adult joke.
6. Definitely, "rosee01."
In Big, with Tom Hanks, when he gets propositioned by the woman he's seeing to "sleep over."
"OK, but I get to be on top!"
Saw this movie in its first run when I was a kid, and it was funny because, you know, bunk beds. Saw the movie a good 10 or 15 years later and...ohhhhh....
7. For sure, "LotusPrince."
Ratatouille, where Alfredo's trying to explain to Colette that he has a rat doing his cooking for him.
"I have a small...uh..." and he puts his thumb and forefinger together.
Collette briefly glances down, then back up at him, and looks confused and slightly disgusted.
8. We must support thespians, "Apidooom."
In Rango:
Ezekiel: [while reading a book] I think they's thespians!
Balthazar: Thespians? That's illegal in seven states!
9. This one is A+, "gestrada3000."
I'm fond of the bestiality joke in Frozen. "That thing with the reindeer/That's a little outside of nature's laws"
10. Everyone loves a rhyme, "trickfinger7."
In the Rugrats Movie, when the parents are discussing the sex of the new baby (who ends up being Dill) Angelica’s mom says “Well, yanno what they say: born under Venus, look for a...” before she gets interrupted
11. Give it up for accidents, "to_the_tenth_power."
In one of the Powerpuff Girls episodes, the girls make friends with another girl their age and when they introduce her to Professor Utonium they explain he created them by accident.
The girl says, "Don't worry professor, I was made by accident too."
12. How scandalous, "PUGDOGRO1."
The Hey Arnold movie where Helga says about Arnold, "You make my girlhood tremble"
13. All hail, LEGO movie, "MrJosephWorldwide."
In the LEGO Batman movie where Robin says to Batman
“My name is Richard but my friends call me Dick.”
And he responds
“Kids can be cruel”
14. Ok, but everyone loves "Breaking Bad," "pvc468."
In "Zootopia," they reference Breaking Bad, by saying, "Hurry, before Walt and Jesse get back." while they are wearing yellow jumpsuits and harvesting the toxic blue flowers.
15. This is a debate, "lularoeisacam9."
In frozen where Anna is on the sleigh ride with Kristoff and they were talking about foot size. Anna says “size doesn’t matter”
16. Dirty Donkey, "Mephestrial."
I was watching Shrek the other day, and Donkey was sleep talking. He said "oh you like that baby? Hop up in my saddle, I'll give you a ride".
My partner and I just about died laughing.
17. It was a less accepting time, "wffrdrg."
Princess diaries the chauffeur Joe was like San Franciscos A weird place, when I bought the panty hose they asked if I wanted them bagged or to wear them out
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8 Valentine's Day gifts that we should all cancel. RIP, heart necklaces.
Valentine's day is honestly the worst.
If you're single, it's just a reminder that you're alone, eating Hersey kisses and drinking wine in yoga pants you've never done yoga in. If you're in a relationship, it's a forced day to express love in the form of material items which feels dirty and insincere. The restaurants are slammed, florists are stressed, it's usually on a weekday--everything is bad.
While I'm not trying to knock anyone for going out of their way to make someone feel loved, there are a few Valentine's Day clichés we should probably just let die.
1. Heart necklaces.
Unless you're in middle school and dating someone you have a purely texting relationship with, you don't need a heart necklace. Valentine's Day-themed garbage is so covered in hearts, getting a heart necklace would be like getting your wife a necklace for Christmas that just said, "Merry Christmas!" It's weird, it's boring, they're honestly never pretty and every woman you know has at least five buried somewhere in a box.
2. Infinity jewelry, or "forever"-themed bling.
If you're just dating someone, getting them anything "forever"-themed that isn't an engagement ring is a bit much. Infinity symbols are cool in theory, but on jewelry they just look like you're really into the number 8. Every kiss does not being with Kay, it begins with Tinder and tequila.
3. The overpriced heart-shaped box of mystery candy.
Forrest Gump might've said these boxes are fun because "you never know what you're going to get," but biting into some chocolatier's strawberry jelly experiment isn't ideal. Yes, they are pretty fun sometimes, but just get them the second they're discounted and enjoy them then.
4. Flowers.
Ok, I know this is controversial and everyone does love flowers. However, sending flowers to your significant other's place of work, or bringing flowers to a dinner or show you both have to spend a lot of time at--not great. Basically, you're giving someone three chores 1) holding these flowers all night, 2) finding something at home to put these flowers in (mason jars?) 3) deciding when these flowers are dead and throwing them out. Flowers, while beautiful, are just plants on their deathbed. They're gorgeous garbage and we can all do better.
5. Stuffed animals.
Unless you're both under the age of 13, getting an adult a teddy bear is...let's just not. Are you supposed to keep it in your adult apartment in your adult bed? Do you put it on a shelf and explain to your adult friends that your adult significant other purchased a toy that says "ages 3+" on it? Yes, they're cute, but they're for children, not for a person who pays taxes and has health insurance.
6. Balloons.
With Bill Clinton being the rare exception, balloons are only fun if you're five years old and living in the Mary Poppins universe. In line with the flowers theory, balloons are just something you have to carry around AND worry about flying off into the sky and creating sky-litter.
7. Lingerie.
Unless your significant other gave you specific styles and sizes, going rogue in a Victoria's Secret isn't a great move. Most of the time you'll end up either over-shooting on size and watching your partner cry about how big you thought their ass was, or underestimating size and watching your partner cry about how their ass can't fit in this lingerie. To clarify, this is if you're purchasing lingerie for someone else to wear, not buying lingerie for yourself so that someone else can (view?) it. While I personally don't understand the appeal of fancy garters and lace that will be taken off almost immediately, it's a very successful industry so who knows.
8. Naming a star after someone.
This is totally cute, but also--what does anyone does with this? Can you actually find your star, and even if you do, then what? This seems like a scam that a hopeless rom-com character invented and now they're making bank.
If you were nervous about what to get your significant other and then you read this list and are thinking, well what SHOULD I do? May I suggest money, a vacation, a thoughtful letter, bath bombs, a home-cooked dinner, a pizza, a vibrator...Look, I don't know what your partner likes. The point is, Valentine's Day made people lazy about showing their romantic partners they care and we need to banish heart necklaces forever.
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14 'how we met' stories that'll make even your single ass believe in love this Valentine's Day.
It's Valentine's Day, a day when people in relationships finally get to talk about the fact that they're in relationships!
No doubt that your social media feeds are clogged with couples being couple-y, declare their love for one another online as if they're not planning on meeting up tonight.
While most real-life love stories are boring (it's always some variation of "we met online or at a friend's cousin's dogwalker's Halloween party"), the How We Met Project features non-fictional love stories that are actually worth reading.
They're better than a rom-com, because they're real!
1. They are the champions, my friends.
2. Meeting on Tinder might not be the most romantic thing, but this proposal definitely is.
3. Czech-ing each other out.
4. This is my favorite Nancy Meyers movie.
5. Michael and Holly's proposal > Jim and Pam's proposal
6. Who knew double decker bus tours could lead to love?
7. Poetry always seals the deal.
8. The inter-continental courting is genuinely inspiring.
9. The only good thing that has ever happened on Snapchat.
10. Things got hot after the Cold War.
11. He must be a real catch to be worth meeting at 5 AM.
12. A simple sentence is all you need.
13. He *literally* fell in love.
14. "From prom dress to wedding dress."
Pardon me as I bawl.
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23 Filthy Sex Memes Anyone With A Dirty Mind Needs To See.
This totally NSFW meme list will make anyone with a dirty mind laugh out loud. If you have a filthy mind and a wicked sense of humor, these memes will take you straight to horny town.
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Guy's brutally honest breakup text goes viral as a reminder that 'ghosting' people isn't cool.
All too often, people leave a date with no idea how the other person feels about them. If you're not into the other person, it can be stressful trying to gauge how they feel about the situation, whether to go forward with chilling through another date and whether it'll come across presumptuous to let them down. If they're not into you either, will they make you feel stupid for laying out the reasons you don't want to go out again? Or is it leading someone on to stay mum about the lack of connection?
While there's no easy way to navigate letting a date down, avoiding these awkward conversations oftentimes results in the awful trend of ghosting, which leaves one person completely in the emotional lurch.
Since ghosting is so common, and its rare to see healthy emotional rejection modeled online, the Reddit user karmabandido's breakup text with his date quickly went viral for its honesty.
This is the ideal example of how to let someone down easy, he was polite and respectful, didn't ghost her - but also didn't mince words about the lack of connection. In return, she was able to reveal that she felt the same way and they were able to avoid further awkward interactions without ghosting or negging each other.
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The White House declared a national emergency via Notes App. Welcome to Hell.
Do you want the good news or the bad news first?
The good news is that there won't be a government shutdown, as the government has done the bare minimum and agreed on a budget to continue operating!
The bad news is that because Congress' spending bill does not appropriate funds for his beloved Game of Thrones tribute wall on the Southern border, Trump is set to declare martial law and just do it anyway!
That sounds like hyperbole, but no, it's just a description of what's going on.
As a testament to just how much thought they put into declaring an emergency over Sicario 2 fanfiction, Press Secretary Sarah Huckabee Sanders released the White House's official statement as a screenshot from the Notes App, an iPhone feature most commonly used when a celebrity has to apologize for being racist.
Not only did Huckabae not release the news on official White House letterhead, the announcement has a random black dot on it.
You know who would not be happy to see the president circumventing the democratically elected legislature to impose his will upon the country? Donald Trump (in 2014).
Before examining the legality of the president declaring a national emergency he can't pass a law democratically and his fanboys love chanting so much, let's take a second to laugh at the absolute insanity of this whole thing being kicked off on the NOTES APP.
Who knew authoritarianism was so #basic?
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25 Utterly Random Memes Everyone Should Laugh At This Morning.
You don't have to be a morning person to enjoy this randomly hilarious list of memes. Start your day off with a laugh, you will be glad you did.
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Tomi Lahren made fun of 'angry feminists' on Valentines Day and got festively dragged.
Yesterday was Valentines Day, but the gift of love is something that gives everyday. As you well know, love takes many forms, it presents itself in romantic relationships, family, friendships and passions, and one of the internet's greatest love affairs is dragging Tomi Lahren after she tweets something cruel or incomprehensible.
This year for Valentines Day, Lermen gave the internet what we all didn't realize we wanted, a snarky tweet implying feminists neither find love or get laid.
Undoubtedly, Tommy Laymen must have felt a rush of adrenaline when she hit send on this juicy hunk of cliche digital garbage.
Needless to say, Lomein's thinly veiled desire for attention was quickly met with a festive Valentine's Day dragging.
But also, several women responded with genuine details of the romantic gifts their partners got them. Many even ask Tommy about her plans, which seem fairly non-existent based on the tone of her tweet.
In fact, if anything, the "angry feminists" she targeted were far more gracious with Tommy on Valentines Day than merited. It seems pretty clear who the angry lonely one in this equation is.
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People are pranking their dads by pretending to fill up cars with olive oil. The reactions are hilarious.
Dads are easy targets for pranks, but it doesn't make the "punk"ing any less satisfying.
The latest text prank in the grand tradition of Nathan Fielder's glorious "I haven't been fully honest with you" text prank shows that parents will believe anything when it comes to millennials and Gen Z trying to "adult."
Popular Twitter account "The Dad" called on its followers to tell their dads that they filled their car up with oil. Tasty oil.
The dads' responses are hilarious.
BarryFloyd83's dad respects his son's commitment to being health conscious.
Ashbake's dad was seriously concerned.
RomanBloemke's dad was not impressed.
Mamma mia! That's a spicy a-text message, @SusieSalas!
ArielleVonn's dad couldn't be fooled.
CarrieBot's dad got dad jokes.
Jokes pic.twitter.com/vjaKDLhnuo
— Carla Morfee (@Carriebot) February 12, 2019
MyNameIsCJLyons' dad does, too!
Rachel_Tab owned up to the bit right away.
LaurenPresley04's dad with the tough love.
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Woman pokes holes in anti-vaxxers' theory by using their own argument. Got 'em.
Anti-vaxxers come up with such absurd theories that sometimes it feels like the best argument against them is, "Did you fucking hear what you just said though???" Sadly, that exact question doesn't seem to get to them, but using a tactic that forces them to take a hard look at the insanity webs they are weaving just might. How does one do this? I'm so glad you asked...
A woman on the internet (hero) took the anti-vaxxer theory that vaccination should be avoided because some kids who have been vaccinated also have Autism and compared it to the idea that feeding your children should be avoided because some children who have eaten food have also choked. As a wise young wizard once said: that's bloody brilliant.
The full post was uploaded by sunsetbliss on Imgur:
There's a lot to unpack here, but I would like to start by giving praise to the part where she listed "garlic breath" as one of the dangers that food poses. Genius. As a whole, this perfectly points out the flaws in anti-vaxxers' argument. Pretty much everything in this world can involve complications, but that doesn't mean you should lock yourself in a vault and never go outside. Although, I'm sure some anti-vaxxers have considered doing exactly that.
A lot of people in the comments were here for this women's argument and rallied behind her with praise.
DiarmuidRyan said:
Fun fact. Everybody who has died has eaten food. Coincidence?...I don't think so. Food is poison!!! wake up sheeple!!
Seraphiel123 pointed out:
That's actually a more reasonable stance than anti-vaxxers because there is an actual risk from choking from eating but there is no risk of autism from vaccines at all.
shade1701 joked:
Same mom to child "You can't sit outside!!! Outside is where the Civil War happened!!!
This argument *should* be able to show anti-vaxxers how wrong they are, but I have the feeling they won't be able to see the flawless logic here...
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Ann Coulter and Donald Trump are having a nasty public beef and they both deserve to lose.
Separation of powers as enshrined in the Constitution be damned: President Trump went and declared a national emergency because there are brown people on the border with Mexico.
You'd think that human pitchfork Ann Coulter would be impressed by Trump's egregious power grab in the same of erecting a massive "f*ck you" monument to Mexico, but the pile of toothpicks is surprisingly skeptical.
Coultergeist was pissed that Trump's emergency declaration came in tandem with his signing the budget that Congress did approve, which didn't include the billions he demanded for his fence.
Ann Coulter slammed Trump's emergency declaration as a charade to appease "the stupidest people in his base" and now people are in the very uncomfortable position of agreeing with Ann Coulter.
To Donald Trump, all words are fighting words, and the president must have seen Coulter's take on his morning toilet Twitter scroll. He decided to burn her from his podium at the Rose Garden, a place most famous for hosting the signing of a declaration of peace between Israel and Jordan.
Asked if the conservative media circlejerk informed his decision—as it did with last month's shutdown—Trump riffed on his friends Sean Hannity and Rush Limbaugh before taking the opportunity to burn the witch known as Ann Coulter.
That's right, he PULLED A MARIAH CAREY!!!
You might be surprised to learn that Trump—wait for it—LIED! He does, in fact, know Ann Coulter!
If you think that's how petty the Rose Garden presentation got, you should hear the president describe how the constitutionality of his actions will be challenged in the courts!
Speaking of court, expect to hear a lot of lawsuits mentioning the fact that Trump admitted himself that this "national emergency" is hardly an emergency.
Rep. Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez tweeted about the comment, so you know it's important.
Amazing how everything can be both so scary and so dumb.
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'Foodie' mom claims her child won't need a kids menu, gets hilariously served by other parents.
Even if you've never taken care of a child, you know they're notoriously finicky when it comes to food. A food's taste, texture, or appearance might inspire a child to protest its consumption or throw a tantrum until a better, more edible alternative is introduced. Sometimes bribery helps a child expand their palette, at least temporarily; to this day, I promise myself chocolate if I finish all the vegetables on my dinner plate. It works if I do, in fact, have chocolate. Sometimes the food isn't the issue but rather the way it's presented. Chrissy Teigen understands this concept all too well and made mealtime more tantalizing for her daughter with a handmade 'menu.'
The feeding struggle gets extremely real for parents, but one new mother hasn't hit that roadblock yet. She's convinced that *her* child won't eat from the kids menu, what with being a foodie and all.
Her child hasn't started eating solids yet and she thinks he's the second coming of Anthony Bourdain? That's...a lot to process. Luckily, more experienced parents jumped in to 'educate' her. It's easy to romanticize a stage of parenthood when you haven't experienced it, including the downsides.
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Ariana Grande fans are boycotting her music for a supremely confusing reason.
Ariana Grande stans truly know no chill. And now that it has officially become the year of Ariana Grande, they are v busy taking their fandom to the next level. So much so, that they are now boycotting one of her songs in an attempt to make one of her other songs go to number one on the charts. Say what now?
Just to recap here, Ariana Grande recently broke the internet when she debuted the iconic "thank u, next" music video. Like, literally YouTube froze momentairly because so many people were watching it. Needless to say, the refreshingly positive breakup anthem had everyone talking, and it quickly made its way to the top of the charts where it became the pop singer's first number one hit on Billboard Hot 100.
Ari didn't stop there. She continued to grace us with more singles from her album, which eventually led to a second legendary music video release. This time the single attached to the video was an anthem to herself, her riches, and her bitches. "7 rings" also rose to the top of the charts, because as we covered, this is the year of Ariana Grande.
Then, Ari finally dropped the entire album. And because she also knows no chill, she released yet another amazing music video with the song "break up with your girlfriend, i'm bored." Was it an instant hit? Take a guess (hint: yes, duh).
Okay, now we're all caught up. As we speak, "break up with your girlfriend, i'm bored" is climbing its way up the charts. And Ari stans are determined for it to hit number one so she can break records by being an artist with three top hits at once. So they've decided that in order for it to get there, it has to surpass "7 rings," meaning they need to stop listening to "7 rings" and start listening to "break up with your girlfriend, i'm bored." Ow, my head hurts.
Ariana Grande fans literally live online, so they have taken to Twitter to get their message of boycotting "7 rings" out to the public.
Ariana loves her fans, but even she seems to realize how crazy this shit is.
If you need me, I'll be doing what any rational person would and listening to both "7 rings" and "breakup with your girlfriend, i'm bored" on repeat until the day I die.
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Woman asks if she's 'an a**hole' for wanting to dump her boyfriend because of his rape. She got answers.
There is no easy one-size-fits all way to respond to sexual trauma, particularly when you're learning about the pained memory of a loved one. Everyone processes abuse differently, and while some people may need an ear to vent or cry to, others prefer space after opening up about sexual trauma.
Still, even though there's no easy way to respond, most people with empathy know that shaming someone or victim-blaming is never a correct way to react. If you love or care about someone, your first concern should be their well-being and finding ways to support them. People's true colors often come out during times of intense vulnerability, and sadly, those colors aren't always good.
To this very point, when the Reddit user calinylo00 found out her boyfriend had been raped as a child, she quickly left his apartment and claims she "views him differently now."
She made a post on Reddit asking if she was an asshole for feeling different about him after learning about his trauma, and luckily, the internet served as a voice of reason confirming that she is in fact a self-centered horrible person.
"Im a 20yo woman currently dating my 24 yo boyfriend of 5 months.
Hes tall, muscular, blonde with blue eyes. Hes also really dominant and works at a start up doing marketing. In general hes very smart, funny, yadda yadda you get it. I like him."
"However even though our sex life is good hes been having trouble performing starting a week and a half ago. I thought it was me at first so i asked him and he started to break down a bit before crying. Hes just started seeing a therapist or "counselor" about his childhood."
"Then he tells me that he was raped as an 11 year old by his stepbrother, multiple times when he was young. This floored me as up until this point he seemed so macho and sort of like a "tough guy" and nows hes confessing to being raped by another man while completely being in tears and holding me.
I held him back and let him vent but i ended up leaving (we were at his apartment)."
"I completely understand that its horrible being a rape victim but honestly i dont know if i could see him the same way again. I had this image of him that's completely shattered and honestly everytime i see him text me I just feel weird now.
My best friend thinks i should try to keep dating him for a bit but im really not attracted to him like i was before. We're not broken up yet but im considering it kinda. AITA?"
People were quick to lay out the many reasons her response is awful. For one, she's centering herself in his trauma, and somehow making his flashbacks about her comfort (or lack there of). On top of that, she is effectively victim-blaming him by claiming his abuse shattered her image of him.
There's already a toxic conflation between emasculation and sexual abuse that silences male victims, and she played into it by suggesting his trauma makes him less attractive.
ToytlesLikeMe suggested she leave him so he can find a nice girlfriend.
"YTA, Do him a big favour and break up with him. Then hopefully he can get himself a nice girlfriend."
Tyreathian pointed out how obviously messed up her response would seem if the roles were swapped.
"Imagine if he was in your shoes. You had been raped, and he wanted to break up with you because of it. Doesn’t sound so good now does it?"
CaptainHacker lamented how its a lose-lose situation for the boyfriend who is already reliving his trauma. Either he has a girlfriend who stays and doesn't empathize with him, or she leaves and he is saddled with a fear to open up again.
"I can't even begin to imagine what OP's boyfriend must be feeling.
And no matter what OP does, it sucks for the boyfriend. He's either in a relationship with a woman that refuses to respect him because of a traumatic experience he had or she leaves."
"Obviously she needs to leave him so he can hopefully find someone a little more... human, but think about what her leaving would be telling him. It would be telling him that when people learn about his experience, they think less of him. I don't know about the boyfriend, but I'd have a hard time letting anyone in ever again after that."
annieklucas43 broke down how there's nothing more strong than opening up about your vulnerabilities to a partner.
"100% this. Not much more masculine and STRONG than being real and honest and vulnerable with someone. Her response is reprehensible. I’m a female survivor of rape and I had a dude do this to me and it was probably the most pathetic thing I’ve ever witnessed and spoke volumes about his shallowness. Made it easy to walk away for sure. This girl needs to go find a nice shallow guy."
FlyingTwisted called out the girlfriend for what she is: an awful, cruel person.
"This. You are the absolute worst kind of person. He trusted you enough to open up to you about his worst experience. You're only human too and nobody can stop you from feeling this way but he deserves better than you. Somebody who is going to respect him for who he is.
Do him a favor and make up some bullshit about why you're breaking up with him so it doesn't hurt him more mentally moving forward."
avicioustradition pointed out how the girlfriend's response is precisely why so many childhood abuse survivors, particularly male ones, repress their experiences and continue the cycle of abuse.
"Just....this shit is why so many me. Who are CSA victims bottle things like this up inside and never deal with them. They just get angry and bitter and turn into over-compensating, emotionally handicapped jerks. It makes me want to start screaming and never stop and also hug her poor boy friend until he explodes with love and validation. ( as long as he’s okay with hugs)"
Unfortunately, this situation is so awful all around there is no possible happy ending. But for the sake of the boyfriend, I hope she leaves him without causing further emotional damage, and that he's able to continue processing his trauma with his counselor, close friends, and in the future - a more understanding partner.
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