Navigating relationships is hard, and once you add kids and careers to the mix you have an even more complex situation. One family is feeling this on all fronts, and the mom took to the Reddit community to ask for advice. Here’s what she wants to know.

ThrowRAMoneyOrHim (OP) posted in the relationship forum on Reddit looking for advice on a recent career opportunity. She writes:

We've been married for almost a decade and have two children that are elementary school age. I work remotely. My job offered to literally double my income if I move to be local to where the company is. To me, this is a no brainer. That's a life changing offer for us and our kids. However, he refuses to move. His family is here, and he won't leave them.

He says money isn't everything, but it would make their life a whole lot easier.

He claims money isn't everything, which is true. But it sure helps and with the promotion I've been offered, he could travel to see them as much as he wanted to. He wouldn't even have to work if he didn't want to.

He says he's happy here and he wants the kids to grow up around family. I get that. I do. However, if he wants the kids to grow up around family, we're living in the wrong state anyways because I have 100x the amount of family in a different state than he has here. What he means is he wants the kids to grow up around his family.

His refusal to move makes this woman feel like her husband is choosing his family over their family.

I am interpreting this as him choosing his family over me and that crushes me. WE (The kids and I) are his family and he should want to do whatever he can to give US the best possible life. Never in my life did I think I'd have to fight for the priority spot in his life over his mom.

I don't know what to do. I want this promotion. I will never see this kind of money otherwise. At the same time, I am not one to thump my chest to get my way. We always make decisions together, but we're at a crossroads with this and I don't know how to reach a mutual agreement. No matter which route we take, someone loses.

She posed the question: What would Reddit do? Take the promotion with or without him? Or decline the promotion and stay here where his family is?

Dietcokeisgod answered her question with another:

If you decide to not take the promotion you are likely to resent him. Would it be possible for you to commute?

The OP answered saying:

That's my fear... Resenting him. But at the same time, I don't want him to resent me... And, no, my job is located many states away.

BamaSOH offers some insight based on their own experience:

Part of the reason for my parents divorce was all the great jobs my dad wouldn't let my mom take because he didn't want to move anywhere.

t4mpon tries to find a compromise asking:

Can you guys agree to try it for a year? If you own your house, keep it and rent it out so you can come back if you have to. If he’s miserable at the end of the year, then revisit the decision.

lowlysquib says it's time to think about her for a change:

Choose you for once. Don’t let this dynamic be all your kids see of an adult relationship. Time to stand up for yourself, and them.

KitchenCellist suggests therapy after OP says she always puts her husband first:

Maybe therapy for yourself to figure out why you always put him first, even above your own interests.

And magictubesocksofjoy thinks about the future and proposes another question:

Let's say the "one emergency expense" happens. how are you going to handle waking up next to the person whose stubbornness means you have no savings to help you, no buffer to shield you from this one life-ruining emergency expense?

how are you going to explain your financial crash to your kids when their lives are flipped upside down?

ThrowRAMoneyOrHim edited her original post to provide more details:

Where my job is, we've lived there before. We lived where we are currently for 6 years, where my job is for 4, then we moved back a year ago. My daughter wants to move back. My son doesn't.

We are "one emergency expense" away from being homeless type of middle class. We have no savings, we can't vacation, my parents pay for school supplies and clothes.

She says the only reason he told her he doesn't want to move is because his mom lives near by:

My biggest issue is that his sole reason for not wanting to move (At least what he tells me) is that he wants to stay close to his mom. I am not looking for a divorce. I take my marriage very seriously. I feel I've sacrificed a shit ton to ensure this marriage stays successful. Divorce is not something I entertain. That's why, when push comes to shove, I know I'll be the one to give up my opportunity. For the sake of keeping my family together. That's how it's always gone. I know that that's where this is headed.

starrynight75 says maybe it's time to think of something different:

Or... you and the kids move. He can stay home with his Mom and commute to see you all on the weekends. You’re doing what you can for their future, he’s snuggling up to Mom.

masuka1219 offers a story of a similar situation with her ex-husnand:

Already divorced and share 50/50 custody of the kids. In addition to doubling my salary (including bonus), the company included all moving expenses including up to $25,000 reimbursement if you sold your house at a loss. The job was 2 hours away (so... not several states away, understand this is a huge difference).

The point of all that? MY EX HUSBAND WAS WILLING TO MOVE SO I COULD TAKE THE JOB. Let me say that again - my ex-husband was willing to move because he knew what it would mean for the kids. After struggling for years as two single parents... it would be life changing. And it was.

Long story, but I ended up moving a bit closer to work. Ex-husband did in fact move... he had to move 5 minutes away from his current house so he would be in-district and the kids could stay in the school they loved. On my nights - he drives to my place in the morning to get the kids for school. In return? I pay for travel hockey, give him cash to chip in for groceries and gas and finally can save for college. We compromised and the kids are better off. I’ve since gotten to take them on their first real vacation to the ocean.

Your husband is being selfish. You have the opportunity to change your kid’s lives. Do it. You won’t regret it

SunsetGrind has this to say:

I personally don't believe in sacrificing career opportunities. Especially if it means having a better life for you and your kids. You two need to have an objective discussion about this. The LEAST he can do is discuss without having his mind already made up. Also let him know how you feel about him choosing his mom over his wife and kids.

A deleted user who had been following the OP's responses in the thread says it might be more than just the job bothering her husband:

The more I read your responses the more it seems like he doesn’t want his wife being the breadwinner.

And IamPlatycus says either way this lands, it's not going to be great for their marriage:

Either way your marriage is going to take some damage. You're going to need counseling to repair the already apparent resentment growing on both sides, counseling you can better afford by taking the promotion

Relationsips are hard, and there really is a lot of compromise that needs to happen for the partnership to remain healthy. Refusing to talk it out like this situation? Not a good look.

"One is not born a woman, one becomes one."

~Simone de Beauvoir

Once you become a woman you know the struggle is real. After everything we do for everyone else, we deserve something special. Ladies, this one is for you. Sit back, relax, and laugh at some dang funny memes.

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The wedding industrial complex seems to stubbornly resist change even as society evolves (thanks a lot, The Bachelor franchise!). This is why we still often see dated traditions like dads "giving away" their daughters, women wearing white as a symbol of their "virginity" (lol nice try, brides), and the bridal party being divided up in to bridesmaids and best men.

Of course, many couples are choosing to opt out of these traditions. But if there's one thing people hate, it's change. A bride who is having a hard time with the thought of her husband bucking gender roles at their wedding shared her story on Reddit's "Am I The A**hole?" forum, hoping for some insight. She got it, that's for sure!!!

The bride explains that her husband wants the role of "best man" at his wedding to be filled by his best friend, who is a woman.

*Clutches pearls*

My fiancé and I are planning our wedding, and today he said that he is planning on having his female friend be his best man, making her the “best woman”.

Seems NBD, right? As far as I know, the "best man's" job is to stand around looking awkward in photos and embarrass the groom by spilling TMI in the wedding toast. I know plenty of women who could pull that off no problem.

But apparently this bride is not okay with her future husband's "best man" being a woman because she wants to be the "most important woman" to him. Yikes.

Fiancé: if you're reading this, run. It's not too late, bud.

She says she demanded her husband choose a different "best man":

I immediately said no and to pick someone else. I didn’t expect him to put up a fight about it but he got super mad and asked why. I said because that’s not how weddings are supposed to be, and the most important woman to him is supposed to be me and vice versa. I wouldn’t ever expect to have a man as my maid of honor.

The fiancé didn't take well to his (alleged) future wife telling him what he can and can't do regarding this decision:

He said it doesn’t matter how weddings are supposed to be, he wants his friend to be his best woman because she’s his best friend(which I think is debatable). I said no again and now he won’t talk to me without bringing up the argument. I think he’s being unreasonable here.

Sounds like a great relationship. These two should definitely commit to spending their lives together and involve a bunch of money and paperwork. JK!!!!!!!!

This bride may not be happy with the feedback she received on her post, because the verdict is in, and no big surprise: she's the a**hole!

People are criticizing her for everything from being heteronormative to being a terrible, controlling partner.

Iamanalbatross12 writes:

YTA, she’s his best friend. Your perspective is very heteronormative, it’s not abnormal to see a wedding with any gender on either side.

der_k03n1gh3x3 used THE B-WORD:

YTA. Big time. You're Bridezillaing your fiance. "It's not how they're supposed to be" is a cop out. It's 2020. Weddings are what you make them! Having mixed-gender wedding parties is absolutely an option.

(I was my best-friends-since-middle-school's "man of honor"... for two brides. So...)

PleasantFix5 adds:

YTA it’s supposed to be your best friends up there next to you. You “doubt” she’s his best friend, like you would know better than he does? It’s his wedding too, OP.

TheFettest_Fett:

YTA you don't get to decide who is or isn't his best friend. If it's a trust issue maybe don't get married.

Others are pointing out something she doesn't seem to realize, which is that it's his wedding too.

rocksalamander writes:

YTA

Your SO will have friends, both male and female, and in a trusting relationship, so should you. If it was a "best man," would that make him the most important person in the room? No. The Best Man/Woman position means of all the people in the world, your fiancee chose this woman to be witness to HIS LOVE FOR YOU.

Don't die on this hill; it's not just your wedding, it's his, too.

MildandLazy thinks she's an a**hole but has hope she can turn things around:

I immediately said no

Oh, dear. You may want to think about this a little more. Happily married people don't boss their partner around this way or assume they have veto power over everything. Yes, he is your fiance but he is still his own person with his own thoughts and wishes. I have only 'immediately said no' to my husband once in 20 years and that was only because he was about to accidentally mix ammonia and bleach together and gag us all. Right now YTA but I have hope for you that you can turn this around!

But being called an "a**hole" by a bunch of people online isn't the worst of this bridezilla's problems.

Many think her marriage is doomed and are urging the groom to GTFO before it's too late.

Backsliderdee writes:

YTA. Your jealousy and insecurity will sink your marriage. Your fiancé wants his best friend beside him when he marries you. He’s marrying YOU. He chose YOU. Let him have his friends by him.

VanillaCola79 writes:

I say NTA:

It's good to show him what he's in for before he commits for the long term. Gives him time to make a well informed decision and get out while he can.

And nnatty123 agrees:

Thank you. Just came here to say that.. Run OP's fiancé, run in the other direction. Run while you can cus this one is going to make your life a living hell and take you away from friends and family.

So will this woman do some soul-searching, apologize to her husband and try to fix her selfish ways? Can people change, with the help of internet strangers? Or should this guy GTFO before any paperwork is involved? Sound off in the comments!

A group of friends is split on whether or not to stage an intervention for their friend who doesn't buy flattering bikinis.

From the throwaway account taway40163 posted on Am I The A**hole seeking input.

She writes:

My friends and I rented a yacht for a bachelorette party. One of my friends is getting married. There are seven of us, but a lot of people are coming to the party.

One of my friends, let’s call her Tori, is a larger woman. Around 300 pounds. She loves how she looks, she is happy with her weight. All of us love her, we have been friends for years.

Last year, we went to a couple of pool parties, the beach together. Each time Tori wore this really unflattering, barely there string bikini. Each time she got a lot of rude stares and negative comments. We always ended the evening consoling her, yet she wore it several times.

Me, the bride, and another friend want to have like an intervention, about the bikini. Then we can all go shopping for new ones together. Our other three friends think that this makes us assholes and that we are body shaming her, so we shouldn’t do it. They say she should wear whatever she wants.

I personally think that this is the bride's party, people should be focused on her instead of Tori, and it would not be a big deal if Tori got a new swimsuit. Help us settle this, if we told Tori to wear a more flattering swimsuit would we be assholes?

Not gonna lie, I'm going to assume that the Original Poster is an a**hole because they could afford to rent a friggin' yacht.

While a lot of people interpreted her gripe as not wanting to see a fat woman in a itsy-bitsy teenie-weenie bikini, taway40163 insisted in a reply to a comment that her intervention wouldn't be to body-shame her friend, but to prevent her from getting upset on a happy weekend.

"If it was just us girls on a yacht we wouldn’t care. Every time she wears this suit she ends the night upset or in tears," she wrote.

The top comment comes from lawstakobitch, who ruled that the defendant is NTA (Not The A**hole):

NTA - I feel like other commentators are missing the point. It's not that YOU don't want to see her in the bikini, it's that you don't want the party ruined by the need to console Tori. That's a very reasonable request for a wedding-related party.

TravelingBride concurs, and pitched a good alternative to staging an intervention:

NTA reading the headline does sound a little assholeish, but I think you mean well! She wears the string bikini=she gets laughed at=she feels bad=needs to be consoled=ruining the yacht excursion for herself, those consoling her, and the bride. And you just want to avoid that. You even came up with a nice plan of everyone shopping for bathing suits for a fun girls day and not singling her out.

maybe buy cute coverups? They can be themed or coordinating since you’re the wedding party! That way it’s not obvious or awkward like talking about her body in a bathing suit is!

Achieving the desired outcome without the awkwardness of direct confrontation? Sounds good to me!

Even though the first 20 years of the millennium kind of all blend together, there are distinct differences between this decade and the last one.

Back in 2010, Barack Obama was president and getting an old-timey mustache tattooed on your finger was the height of edgy. Today, we have a reality TV president and you're only cool if you have "always tired" tattooed across your damn face.

Suffice it to say, times have changed, even if we didn't notice. One Reddit user asked the question, "What was normal to have in 2010 but not 2020?" and the answers will make you feel like you're back in the Obama era.

1. Nothing was more satisfying than taking a Sharpie to the top of a mix CD.

Burned CDs that you wrote on top of. - QueenSuper

2. Some of us will never stop missing the BlackBerry Curve keyboard.

Cellphone with a physical keyboard. - senft74

3. How many sea turtles had to die for the rubber "raising awareness" bracelet trend?

all those live strong type landfill bracelets for everything - DrunkensAndDragons

4. Times have certainly changed for ol' Jared.

Any respect for Jared the Subway guy. - ErosPhotography

5. All mustache everything.

Things with mustaches on them. I remember I had a pair of shades that had mustaches on them and I thought they were so pimpin. Also galaxy theme everything. - griffie22

6. Wow, anyone else hear the music in their head the minute they read this?

"Please enjoy the music while your party is reached."

Proceeds to blast some deepfried orchestra music. - Not_a_Dirty_Commie

7. Yet another wasteful rubber bracelet trend.

Silly bands - xTylerzx

8. Wii went from must-have to "huh?" in record time.

Not many people talk about Wii but I feel like that was the real s*** - Asher-can-make-a-pun

9. RIP to the incredible DVD collections we all amassed in the '00s and '10s.

CD/DVD drive.

Yesterday I took my laptop out, it's a ThinkPad I run CAD stuff on. I wanted to play absolute fabulous dvd because I'm sick and bored, and wanted to lay in bed. Then I realised... I don't have a device with a dvd/cd player.

My tower doesn't have one, my laptop doesn't have. I can't even recall when was the last I needed one other than last night. Everything from programs to media I basically have either online or on USB storage. - SinisterCheese

10. Imagine how much better our mental health would be if phone technology had stopped at the Motorola Razr?

A still functioning flip phone with no access to the internet. - bismuthwasframed

11. Explaining to your mom why an additionally $40 was tacked onto your bill for no reason wasn't fun, though.

You mean a flip phone with an "internet button" that made you freak out when you accidently clicked it?

That s*** could get expensive real quick. - Thyloon

Yeah dude, when you clicked that you knew your mom would beat the s*** out of you for those 2 minutes you spent searching for lyrics of a song - Kebab_Provider

12. It's always a blast from the past to meet someone with a Hotmail or Yahoo account.

An email account other than Gmail - tensorhere

13. Your ring tone was the essence of your personal brand.

“Funny” ringtones. Everyone had some ridiculous comedy ringtone for a couple of years there, and then in like 2011 we just mutually decided as a culture to keep our phones on vibrate.

Except old people on trains. BINGLY BONG BONG DINGLY DONG DONG DEEEDLY DOO DOO DOOOOO - I_Am_Moby_Dick_AMA

14. iPods, we barely knew ye!

a separate device for music from your cell phone - queuedUp

15. Did anyone even know this team existed pre-Steph Curry?

A Golden State Warriors game without any fans. - dcbluestar

16. Remember the exquisite stress of flipping through your binder, deciding whether today's mood called for Taking Back Sunday or Modest Mouse.

A binder full of CDs in your car. - zerbey

17. Man... those really were the days.

No opinion on Donald Trump. - liarandathief

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We've just learned who the first high-profile celebrity to contract coronavirus is — and people couldn't be more shook.

Tom Hanks, America's stepdad who is honestly more like a biological dad because he's literally been there for us since we were kids no matter what, has tested positive for COVID-19 along with his wife, the equally iconic Rita Wilson. The pair are in Australia while Hanks shoots a biopic about Elvis Presley.

A few people on the set of the film have tested positive for the virus. From BBC News:

"All the people who were on set have gone home and self-quarantined," said Gold Coast Mayor Tom Tate.

The studio behind the film, Warner Bros, said it was "working closely with the appropriate Australian health agencies to identify and contact anyone" who may have come into direct contact with the star.

Hanks posted on his Instagram about the diagnosis:

"We felt a bit tired, like we had colds, and some body aches," he wrote. "Rita had some chills that came and went. Slight fevers too."

He added, "To play things right, as is needed in the world right now, we were tested for the coronavirus, and were found to be positive".

Hanks' son Chet Haze even hopped onto Twitter to reassure us all that his dad and step-mom are "not trippin'."

Of course, beloved as Hanks is, the diagnosis is hitting people hard — and hammering home the reality of the coronavirus threat. As always, panic isn't necessary, but other precautions like hand-washing and social distancing are a good idea.

But the internet loves to make itself laugh to keep from crying, so you'd better believe memes are being made while the world wishes Hanks and Wilson a quick recovery.

People had a hard time believing the news at first.

But they were thankful for Chet Haze taking the time to announce his parents' welfare.

Some blamed Australia.

Others pointed out how if the Hankses were in the U.S. with such subtle symptoms, they might not have gotten a test at all.

It seems like a great premise for a Tom Hanks movie, no?

But the biggest question on people's minds is: why'd it have to be Hanks?

Many immediately thought of his iconic role in 2000's "Castaway."

And other movie roles where things did not go amazingly for Tom.

Many reactions imply that Hanks' diagnosis will make people take the threat more seriously.

It's hammering home the reality of the virus to a lot of people.

This led to a "Simpsons" reference.

Most importantly, we need to make sure America's other national treasures are alive and well.

"Life is like a roll of toilet paper; hopefully long and useful, but it always ends at the wrong moment. "

-Rudyh

Life is crazy and sometimes stressful, but it's all about appreciating the little things. Like these 23 little memes that pack a huge laugh. Get ready to get the giggles because these memes are funny as heck.

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Sometimes it's hard to know it's appropriate to intervene in someone's personal life...

If it's a matter of someone's safety or the safety of others, sometimes it's crucial to meddle in someone's private life. However, if you just secretly want to add a little spice and drama to a story, you should definitely refrain. Know when something is your business and when it's time for you to take a step back and support other people's choices.

When a recent Reddit user asked the moral compass of the internet (Reddit's "Am I the As*hole?"): "WIBTA (Would I be the As*hole?) for telling a girl’s dad that she is a stripper?" people were definitely prepared to call her out...

WIBTA for telling a girl’s dad that she is a stripper?

Hello! I made an account to post here because I am honestly not sure if I would be the asshole for doing this or not.

There is this girl named Emma who I became friends with in high school. During the course of knowing her, I also became close with her dad. He often tells me that I am like a daughter to him. By the time Emma and went to college, we began to drift apart due to being further away. By senior year, Emma became a stripper. She chose to do this for fun, not because she needed the money or anything. I want to clarify now that I have no problem with her doing this! If she wants to strip and get a bunch of extra cash while she’s young to set herself up for a comfier future, good for her!

My problem here comes from her dad. See, Emma has been lying to her dad about where she is getting the money from. She told him that it’s from a very well paying internship. Normally I wouldn’t butt in where I don’t belong, but now Emma’s dad is constantly calling me/visiting me to brag about Emma’s work and how she is making so much money. While doing this, he is very obviously putting me down by pointing out how I have no job right now despite trying for months to get one.

Here is where my...probably a dick move comes in. Emma has a public Twitter account that she frequently posts to with photos of her stripping in the club. Would I be the as*hole if I shared this account with her dad to show him that his daughter is not making money from a prestigious internship? I asked my partner, but he was as conflicted as me about it. I am really on the fence about actually going through with this. WIBTA?

First of all...why is she so close with her friend's dad?

Sounds like a red flag. Also, if she's thinking of betraying her friend's trust like this to only upset everyone in this situation, it doesn't really seem like she cares about this friend or her friend's father. Sex workers should be respected because sex work is real work and if she wants to have fun and make money, she should be allowed to without the judgment of her dad.

Luckily, people were ready to help determine the verdict...

"RollingKatamari" wrote:

YTA (You're the As*hole)- you'd be doing this out of spite and maybe ruining their relationship. It's her life, her privacy, it's not up to you to 'out' her to anyone. This relationship you have with her dad seems odd as well, think you should scale back on talking with him if all he's doing is showing off and putting you down

"Disregardable" wrote:

Why do you want to intentionally make peoples' relationships worse for no reason?

"brandnewtoreddit1234" wrote:

Honestly, if it was Emma doing all the bragging, then it would be an ESH (Everyone Sucks here) story. But I'm sorry, Emma hasn't done anything wrong, so YWBTA (You Would Be The As*hole) for this. Glad you realized it; hopefully that means you'll respect her privacy!!

"ItJustDoesntMatter01" wrote:

you’d be doing this out of spite. Utterly pathetic.

"hopelessautisticnerd" wrote:

The collateral damage would be highly damaging to Emma, who did nothing wrong.

"Mooseman06" wrote:

it’s not your place to tell her dad what she’s doing with her life. If you feel like he’s putting you down, either confront him about it, or cut contact with him. It’s not hard to sort out your own problems without causing problems for someone else.

"weliftedthishouse" wrote:

Stop spending time with her dad. That’s weird.

So, there you have it! This person is 100% in the wrong in this situation. But, at least they saw the light!

Later, the post was edited:

Edit: You guys are right, and confirming that I would be an absolute asshole for doing this. Thank you for your time!

Regardless of whether you believe in reincarnation or not, there are some inexplicable experiences that point towards a spiritual world that transcends one linear life.

Maybe it's a stranger who shows up in your life with an eerie knowledge about you they couldn't have known otherwise, or a series of strange memories that don't match up with your life, whatever the form, echoes of a past life are always a bit bizarre to consider.

As with anything, when you add children to the picture it all gets a bit creepier. Children are notorious for saying hilarious and creepy things without realizing it, often because they lack the inhibitions so many of us adults have.

In a popular Reddit thread, parents shared the creepy things their children have said that convinced them maybe, just maybe, their child was reincarnated.

1. From vmt_nani:

She asked if I remembered when she died, or when her family died.

My daughter then told me about her three brothers that died (and their names, but i forgot them), then get parents died, then she died. But she was a boy.

Then she came to "this family" and she likes it better, because we have medicine that works. :-( She then grieved for them for about an hour, with me trying to help her through it.

She was 6 years old, with autism, and a speech delay. It was quite a shock for her to relay the whole story to me. The next day she told my sister the same thing, almost word for word.

2. From capnvontrappswhistle:

My 3 yr old said, "I was your mom in heaven," Multiple times. When I was six weeks pregnant with her, my mom died unexpectedly the day she found out the secret that I was pregnant at 40 with what would be her last and 21st grandchild. We were going to surprise her on her 75th birthday, two weeks later, but a niece let the secret out.

When my girl was 4, we were looking through pictures boxes. I have no family pictures posted in my house. Later that night I realized my girl took three pictures of my mom and put then in her room. She's never seen pictures of my mom before. I asked her why she took those pictures and she said, "because I'm pretty."

3. From -thielio:

Sorry I don't have a story, but I have to comment on how it is CRAZY how 99% of the kids in these stories are all around the same age. Very few go past age 5. It's like memories from a past life carry over, and when a kid can finally communicate well (age 3-4) they start talking about memories.

So like... then the kid starts making memories for the new (current) life, and the past life fades away and they don't remember even bringing it up.

That's what's freaking me out the most. The age consistency is insane.

4. From djhankb:

My grandmother passed away about 10 years ago. We were very close and my whole life she always told me that she would be my guardian angel after she died.

When my daughter, now 5 was about 3 she had terrible night terrors and would have a hard time going to sleep. I would spend the evenings with her comforting her to help her get to sleep, reading books, talking to her, etc. One night we were talking about what do you want to be when you grow up. She kept telling me that she used to be a grown up.

After prying and asking what she meant, she told me that when she was a grown-up she used to be my grandma. She then told me a story about when I was young, I had an accident and was burned when helping her cook dinner. It's something that I never told her but did actually happen. It completely creeped me out at first, and she has never really mentioned anything else like that since.

5. From Littleleaf_3:

My grandmother reluctantly told me how my uncle, who was around 2 or 3 at the time, described to her in great detail "skinning the white men."

6. From 4theloveoffiber:

I have a few, all the same kid.

First when my son was 3, he told me that he was once kidnapped and the police accidentally shot and killed him when they were trying to rescue him.

When he turned five he told me he had never made it this far.

Also when he was five, we drove past my grandparents old house, they have been gone 16 & 18 years now. He told me "I used to play in that house with Pappy (my dad) when I was little, except the house used to be white"

The house did indeed used to be white and it had been painted and ugly gray. My dad also had 9 siblings, three of which died in infancy.

edit none of the siblings were shot by police. A set of twin boys born prematurely in the 1940's didn't survive a week. My aunt died of internal bleeding the mid 1950's she was two.

7. From His_Name_Was_Lola:

I've only ever shared with a few people, how my late mother regularly hid a packet of biscuits (Usually chocolate digestives) from my brothers and I, so when we had visitors, there was always some biscuits to go with a cup of tea (How it's done in Britain).

I once caught my daughter stuffing a packet of biscuits in the back of a cupboard behind a big bag of pasta. At the time, I thought "Crafty cow wants them for herself" but left them there to see if they'd disappear - Maybe for a teaching moment about not being selfish or something. They didn't disappear, but reappeared when some friends came over. She just waltzed out of the kitchen, just as my mother used to, opening a packet of biscuits. She never knew my mother and I'm pretty certain nobody else would have encouraged this pretty specific behavior.

I don't believe she's the reincarnation of my mother, but I'm just intrigued at her selflessness - She doesn't get it from me, those biscuits wouldn't have gotten past a couple cups of coffee with me around. She still does it too - We have a biscuit box in the cupboard, usually with a few packs of biscuits, but when I keep a check on how many packs I've bought, there will be one short or I'll come across a random packet in a cupboard somewhere. And she likes to be the biscuit-bringer when we have visitors.

8. From Leather_and_Lead:

I've posted this before but: My daughter, right before she turned 5 was in our hall in the middle of the night, still asleep, whimpering and crying. I got her to come lay down with me and when I asked her what the dream was, she got very upset and said "it wasn't a dream I remembered". She told me she remembered when she was a bad dog, and they made her go to sleep.

I asked her about it again later and she got very upset, said she was a bad dog and started crying saying she didn't want to remember it again.

She has no idea what it means to put a dog down, let alone that it is what happens to "bad dogs."

9. From Qlinkenstein:

I've told this one on Reddit before. My son was three at the time. We were at a ceramics place and I was taking a wheel throwing lesson when he say to this lady "I saw you in the fire. Did it hurt when you got burned? I was there but I couldn't help you."

She turned white as a sheet and explained to me that when she was a young girl, her house caught fire and she was badly burned. She told me that used to tell her family that she followed a little boy, she'd never seen, out of her room and then out of the burning house.

She is sure that my son is her guardian angel, and that he was sent to tell her this as an older lady to make sure always remembers. We became pretty good friends until we moved away. My son is now 16 and doesn't remember much about this other than he has faint memories of her.

10. From EBeast99:

When I was younger, I would have sleep walk, appearing to be fully conscious, then lying down and going back to sleep like nothing happened. There have been times my mom caught me opening windows in the middle of the night. Another time she was in the kitchen reading the paper and I walked in, made myself a glass of orange juice, drank it, then went to sleep at the table in front of her.

One time, my mom and dad were watching a World War II documentary late one night. Something about the push into Europe and a massive tank battle (probably Arracourt). I walked downstairs and my parents told me to go back to bed. I said, "I want to watch the battle again." Parents said I've never seen this documentary. I said, "no, but I remember it. We were in that one. It went boom. points to a specific tank in the middle ground. I remember the one behind us going boom too."

Mom puts me to bed, saying I was talking nonsense. Comes back and jokes to my dad. Dad says he's not so sure, because while she was putting me to bed both tanks exploded. The one in the rear first, followed by the one I pointed out.

Edit: this was a documentary. The footage I was referring to was combat camera crew recording the battle.

11. From fridayfridayjones:

When my sister was 3 she would go on and on about her brother, Brian. We're all girls, and we don't know where she would have heard the name. But it was all, Brian does this Brian and me used to do that, on and on. Thinking Brian was an imaginary friend I asked her where Brian was now. She said "he's dead, I am, too. The bomb got us and our house is gone." Very weird.

12. From Lumi61210:

Apparently I used to always creep my mom out when I was really young by singing a full song, over and over again whenever I was in the tub. She said she has no idea what language it was but it was always the exact same. She swears it wasn't a child's jibberish and was obviously a full language (just not our native English).

I try to remember it but I just can't quite get there. I do remember singing it though and then one day not being able to sing it anymore when I was probably 6 or 7, and being distressed by the loss of it. I wish I knew what the hell it was.

13. From blinky84:

My 3y/o niece, in a hotel near her home "I've been here. I used to sit in this chair and knit." Wouldn't say anything else when pressed further.

Another time in an antiques shop, we looked at an old school desk with a flip-top lid when she, bemused, said "Where's the inkwell??" It just seemed strange that she'd expect there to be one.

14. From the_procrastinata:

When I was about 3, I used to tell my mum stories of being a little Chinese girl. Apparently I lived at the bottom of a hill with my grandmother, and I died in a flood. When I was 6 or 7, I came home from school upset that I'd been surrounded by a group of boys, and I cried to my mum that it was like when the soldiers on horses came to take us away.

15. From SerenityNeutraylis:

My son went for over a year talking about his other mommy and daddy, with a completely straight and serious face. We have a blended family, so he has me (Mom) and at his father's house his Dad, Stepmom, and brother. He said he had 2 fake mommies and a fake daddy and then a set of real ones. When trying to get clarification thinking he was having trouble adapting to new family roles, he informed us that we were the fakes and that his real parents were much older, lived far away on a farm, with his older brother.

That story came up off and on, as well as weird side statements from him. We had him at the ER one time, in a private room, he hears voices outside which he normally wouldn't pay any mind to. He perked up, looked at the door, and goes, "That sounded like my real Mommy's voice!". He was very excited and animated about it (my kid is usually pretty deadpan, so that was off too). I decided to just ride it out, but admittedly it did freak me out at first. He hasn't done it in awhile.

16. From westsideHK:

My family took everyone on a trip to see their old neighborhood. They drove by a house where, about 15 years earlier, a little girl was hit by a car and died. My cousin, who was about 4 at the time, never had been in the neighborhood, and never heard this tragic story, stopped what she was doing and said, "Oh, that's where I died, isn't it?" She then resumed playing with her dolls (or whatever it was she was doing).

17. From foufinha:

So I am raised Roman Catholic. My son is raised Roman Catholic. But I was dating this Muslim guy who would play prayers constantly (that were on YouTube). This particular day my boyfriend was playing a prayer that's supposed to protect you from jinn. My three year old son looked up from his colouring book said clear as day "now they will be gone for 1000 days" my boyfriend looked him dead in the eye and was like "how do you know that?" My son smiled shrugged and continued to colour.

I don't know if this is true but my boyfriend explained that if you recited that specific prayer it was supposed to banish evil spirits for 1000 days. To this day I still get chills when I think about it.

My mother was also super freaked cause I told her "daddy used to be my baby, but I drowned when he was my size." I was 4. My grandfather drowned when my dad was 4.

18. From Poullafouca:

When she was aged around four years old my friend told her Mother, "I'm not coming back here again, Mommy, this is my last time." Her mother asked her what she meant, she said, "I will never be alive like this again, I'm not coming back here."
She is in her late forties now and is the head of a large Buddhist group.

19. From MommaCat1992:

My daughter was 3-4, she kept asking me, "Mommy, do you remember when you were little and I was big? I took good care of you, we went to the store all the time!" Then when her little brother was born she asked me if she could call him "Auggie" (pronounced Oggy), I asked her where she heard that name and she told me that she made it up.

My great grandfather passed away August 31st of 2001, she was born September 7th of 2011. My great grandfather used to take me to king soopers a few times a week and he had a dog (long before I was born) named Auggie (nick name for August) O.o Had a hard time wrapping my brain around it.

20. From Take2task:

This is about my sister. We have always called her a baby genius and she has always seemed like an old soul. I remember when she was four she was playing in another room and my mom was cleaning. My sister comes into the room and asks my mom, "Have you been cleaning because it really smells like ether in here." As in the surgical anesthesia used in the civil war! I had never even heard of that word before. When we asked her how she knew the smell of ether said, "It is what we used."

Humans weren't born with wings, and therefore the fact that they've developed ways to fly in the sky is nothing short of magnificent. Some people aren't sufficiently amazed that they get to circle the globe in a matter of hours, and are total a**holes to flight attendants.

Members of flight crews aired their grievances about their entitled passengers, and here's how not to act next time you're in a can in the sky.

1. Brides love beverage cart rollers, Anaxamenes.

I had someone have a meltdown because I had to have them properly stow their wedding dress. The thing was massive and spilling into the aisle, blocking seats of the entire row. They may have had to pay the hotel to get the wrinkles out but I likely saved them from shoe prints and beverage cart rollers going back and forth over it. Still she was in tears and I was not going to risk others safety including my own.

2. Name names, ParkingLotRanger:

My sister is a flight attendant. A well known actress on board her flight expected the flight crew to change her kids diaper. They didn't.

3. Know the real victim, Betsy514.

Was on a Vegas to Boston flight when a passenger passed away in his sleep. The whole situation was heartbreaking and the flight attendants were clearly shaken. We stopped in NY for emergency personnel to attend to him. The whole process was very quick and and the pilot and staff handled it like champs. Just as we were about to take off a guy in the front row asks the attendant if we would all get free drinks due to the inconvenience. I've never wanted to yell at a stranger so much in my life.

4. UsernameTaken5074 plays favorites.

I’m currently a flight attendant and on my very first flight I had a passenger complain to me that the man behind him was snoring too loudly.

Putting on my best customer service smile I offered to move the complainer, who very aggressively told me that he’d paid for his seat and he wasn’t moving, yelling loudly enough that he woke the snoring guy in the process. I wish I’d had a first class seat available to move the snoring guy just to spite the asshole complainer but there were only other economy seats available so I just told the complainer that he could continue yelling at me or he could accept my offer of a different seat, but that was all I could do for him.

I ended up giving the snorer free drinks for the rest of the flight.

5. YacYacYac could make a killing with a flying laundromat.

My girlfriend’s mom is a flight attendant. One time a woman got quite angry because her daughter spilled apple juice all over and there was not a clothes dryer on the plane for her daughters sweater

6. NotWeirdThrowaway gave that pilot a bad Uber rating.

Not an attendant but was on a flight with really bad turbulence. It went on for about 10 minutes then the old lady next to me reaches up and presses her button. Attendant walks over to see if the woman is okay, the woman begins to yell at the attendant for the rough flight and that she’s been flying her whole life and clearly the pilot has no idea what he’s doing. The stewardess just walked away.

7. ConstableBlimeyChips doesn't care if you're married—they care if you've paid.

Not one specific passenger but a type of behavior I've unfortunately seen too much of: Couple will book separate seats, the man in a premium economy seat with extra leg room, the woman in a normal economy seat. The woman will then play the sad sack and ask another passenger to give up their comfy seat so they can sit together. If the other passenger refuses (usually because they paid extra and literally don't fit in a regular seat), some will even complain to the crew to make them move the other passenger. And all this to save a few bucks on the second Premium seat.

8. Nonia_Bizness plays favorites.

I once watched a very well-dressed businessman have an epic toddler-level tantrum at a check-in counter when he was advised his flight was delayed due to fog. He literally screamed and jumped up and down, and demanded that the the airline "better do something about it or ELSE!" The guy working behind the counter just smirked and suggested that business guy was welcome to go outside and try and flap the fog away with his arms. Entire queue burst out laughing.

9. astromochii has an awesome mom.

my mom was a flight attendant in her 20s. asked her for a story. her first week flying, there was a group of drunk men on the flight. at one point when returning to quiet them down again, one of the fellows had his wang out on full display for her in all its flaccid glory. she says to him very politely and a bit taken aback, “why don’t you put that away now?” and this drunken man flat out says to her, “why don’t you put it away for me?” with the most revolting smug smile on his face. my mom says (in her exact words), “I’d be happy to do that for you, but you’d never be able to use it again.”

10. Hope Hokulani47 has adult diapers for passengers.

I was working the last flight of the night when a passenger came to the back to tell us the man he was sitting next to whipped his member out and urinated on the floor. To make a long story short. The guy couldn’t be bothered to get up and use a bathroom. Thoroughly disgusting.

11. tartineauchocolat has seen humanity at its worth.

I had a passenger take out my crew luggage out of the overhead bin & leave it on an empty seat, so as to make space for her own luggage.

Had a woman rush into the business class galley and complain that the child sitting next to her is making too much noise and asking to calm her down. I peek into the J cabin: the adorable well-behaved 4-year-old is playing quietly by herself in the seat/pod that her parents paid $$$$ for, meanwhile the woman who complained turned out to be an upgrade. Uhm no.

12. tartineauchocolat is not a litter picker-upper.

A guy comes out of the washroom with some toilet paper stuck to his shoe. He stands in the corner near the door, notices the toilet paper, removes it with his other foot and tries to push it farther into the corner. I am standing in the galley, observing this. He notices my blank stare & picks up the TP.

Similarly, people who throw paper towels on the floor in the lav... Why do you think it’s my job to pick up your garbage off the floor? Do you litter in other public spaces too? In malls, at work?

13. expat4eva had a smokin' passenger.

2 years ago on a just over an hour flight someone decided to smoke in the bathroom. It’s been like 30+ years since smoking has been banned in airplanes. There was an indoor smoking cabin by the gate for their last cigarette, the flight was total with boarding, flying, landing all under two hours...Wasn’t an inconvenience other than the alarm and an announcement, but seriously, why would someone even think they could get away with smoking in the bathroom this day and age?

What do you do if the mother of the groom shows up to the bride's pre-wedding party in her old wedding dress?

There are always stories of wedding guests and bridesmaids-gone-bad that roll into a wedding or a wedding event in a wedding dress as an act of dramatic sabotage. Usually though, these stories are in movies or articles about "weddings dos and don'ts"--it's rare that it happens in real life. Mostly, because it's a 100% insane thing to do. Not only does it show your disrespect for the bride, but it's also so attention-seeking it's a borderline cry for help.

So, when a recent Reddit user consulted the "Am I the As*hole?" section about a predicament she was having with her best friend's groom's mother, people were ready to help. Planning a wedding can often bring out the worst in people, but there's really no excuse for this behavior.

AITA for removing the groom's mother from the bridal party?

My best friend (Mina) and I are both from the same African culture/background. Mina is due to marry Sean a white American guy. Mina doesn’t have any family and so my family has become her surrogate family.

Mina wanted a traditional pre wedding party. In this party it is very normal/common for women to dress in white colored outfits or any color. The point of the party is for the women to impart wisdom and money to the bride before she marries. This party to us is as important as the wedding culturally and so it’s a very big deal. Of course we invited Sean’s mother Claire and other women in his family to take part.

Last Saturday we held the party at a small hotel venue with about 50 women in attendance. Claire attended the party dressed in her old wedding dress and the works. Now this is not normal and not part of our custom. Claire was well aware of what was appropriate to wear or not since I had given her clear instructions and examples. I was the first to notice Claire at the car park and I asked her to leave immediately. She said she wasn’t going to and I had hotel security escort her out. Mina enjoyed the party and only found out later that evening that her future mother in law was denied access.

Sean and his sisters have called me an a*shole for denying their mother access and for saying that if she is doing this at this party that she will likely do way worse at the wedding in July.

Mina is happy that I did this and is also on my side. She is also now worried of what Claire will do when the wedding comes. Sean in my opinion is a mama’s boy so he has been really up Mina’s as* about this whole thing.

FYI Claire also said she wouldn’t be helping with the cost of the wedding if she can’t wear what she wants at the wedding. So my parents have stepped in and given Mina the money as a wedding gift. Claire now is also upset with my parents for this.

I don’t believe I was the as*hole in this situation but you may say differently.

She later edited the post to clarify:

Edit: Just to be crystal clear Sean’s sisters were aware of their mothers intention to wear her wedding dress to the party and they had tried to get her to change before coming but she refused. Several other attendees saw Claire at the car park and were of course shocked. We tried to get her to at least change clothes but she refused.

It sounds like this mother-of-the groom wasn't respecting the culture and traditions of the bride at the bride's own party. While getting kicked out of the party is embarrassing and extreme, it was the bride's day!

Luckily, people were ready to help...

"NUTmeSHELL" wrote:

Is Mina sure this is a family she wants to marry into if her fiancé doesn’t even have her back?

"ICWhatsNUrP" wrote:

Claire has control issues. Of course she is mad at your parents, they took away her chance to control the wedding by yanking away financial support. You are definitely NTA. You might want to have someone on standby with a glass of red wine at the wedding to "accidentally" dump it on an inappropriately colored dress.

"concretism" wrote:

Showing up in a wedding dress is the most visual way to say, "I don't approve of this wedding. I am the most important woman in the groom's life." Asking her to leave was your only option.

"hdmx39" wrote:

Of course Claire is upset with your parents for gifting the money, she was no longer able to use that money as leverage to control the wedding. You're a good friend to Mina.

"torikaleidoscope" wrote:

everyone raised in north America knows you do not, under any circumstances, wear a wedding dress to a brides celebrations. Wedding dresses are for the bride. Side note, your traditions sound very interesting, I like that it's about sharing wisdom, rather than the glorified "stripper before marriage" tradition

"abermarm" wrote:

I love your customs, but better start planning the Divorce Party now. Nothing good comes from marrying Mama's Boys.

So, there you have it! This mom was 100% wrong. Don't show up to a bridal shower in a wedding gown, ok everyone?

Many people have broken the rules, misbehaved or done something weird or crazy during work hours. I personally never have, nope, would never, absolutely not, perfect employee right here! But if you have, you know that there's no worse imaginable outcome than getting caught in the act by your boss. However, a good boss has a 6th sense for spotting weird, illicit or unprofessional behavior from their employees. So be warned, y'all: close those browser tabs, stop stealing your co-workers' lunch, and maybe drink one less martini on your lunch-break. Because Big Boss is always watching.

These 27 bosses, managers and supervisors share the craziest things they've ever caught their employees doing at work:

1.) From weedmoneylol:

I was doing a weekly call monitor on one of my better employees and found he was doing an Indian accent. I was a bit surprised so I went back and listened to 5+ calls of his from that week and found he was doing different impressions for almost every call. Arnold Schwarzenegger, Micky Mouse, Apu from the Simpsons, a pretty solid Christopher Walken and a few others.

2.) From Patamarick:

When I was a kid working at a grocery store, another cashier would often buy and then chug a half gallon of milk to get sick to go home.

Job was horrid, so it was entertaining at the time.

3.) From MyAnimalsBite:

Guy that worked for me was getting out of his car one morning and saw one of the other managers in the company, so started talking to him. In the middle of the conversation he whipped his dick out and started peeing on the side of his car. He was 37 years old, sober and it was 8 in the morning. This was for a corporate job.

4.) From shitterplug:

I manage a small weld shop. Generally, I don't care about less than clean background checks or pot, as long as you come into work every day and get shit done. Finding reliable welders is difficult, so a lot of shit flies. This sometimes leads to weird employees. This one guy we hired stopped showing up. After like 3 days days, he walks in the door. He's bright red from being sunburnt to shit, and his clothes are torn to shreds. Dude was drinking on a little aluminum boat and somehow got lost at sea. He looked like Tom Hanks from Castaway! He didn't have cell phone reception, so he wasn't able to call me. He did take a bunch of pictures over the few days he was lost at sea, though. Including one where he was being rescued by the coast guard. I gave him the rest of the week off. Cost guard took him to the hospital, he checked himself out, and immediately came into work. Didn't even go home and shower. Odd dude.

5.) From docious:

Had a see through water bottle that was filled with vodka. He started the day off fine but was legless by lunch. Drove him home (40mins each way) because he couldn't afford a cab. Talked the owner out of firing him and instead we helped him get into a program. That was 4 years ago... he's the production manager now. Model employee now in fact.

6.) From SplungerPlunger:

I was a Valet Captain at an expensive restaurant with the parking lot two blocks away and one of the valets I was supervising "took a wrong turn" in a customers 2016 Audi Rs7 and ended up getting pulled over & arrested for going 110 in a 70 on the interstate.

7.) From B_U_F_U:

Used to work with this girl that would watch porn as she was operating her machine. She'd prop her phone up on the control board and just watch as if it was a sitcom or some shit.

Co-workers went to her supervisor to let him know and he had to have a sit-down with her. She was oblivious to the fact that watching shows on your phone while you work was prohibited, let alone pornhub.

8.) From Seven65:

I had an employee call a French woman a frog and then start ribbiting. That was kinda awkward.

9.) From izwald88:

Back when I was a gas station clerk, my manager would deal drugs while on the clock. He'd take people into the back office to talk to. We all knew what he was doing, mostly because he all but admitted it.

And because we all knew, someone eventually said something and then the company tried to make him take a drug test. He just quit, instead.

10.) From [deleted]:

Was cashier manager at big box store. There was a useless kid that finally stopped showing up. A few days go by, and I see him walk in, so I assume he's going to come up front and we can do the whole formal exit process since he missed shifts. He never comes up front, nobody has heard from him.

So a few weeks go by and we just terminated him. I go back to the lunchroom one day, and useless kid is sitting there. I ask what he's doing and he says he's on break. I'm like lol no you stopped showing up weeks ago and were terminated. He leaves to go "back to work".

I confirmed with all managers he was fired, not working in another part of the store. He shows up in the lunchroom again a few weeks later.

Turned out he didn't want to tell his mom he doesn't want to work. He kept letting her drop him off, he'd hang in the lunchroom for a bit because his mom apparently is friendly with another employee, so this way it looks like he still has the job to his mom.

11.) From [deleted]:

SuperTarget deli. Had an employee eat food from the deli in the walk-in freezer which was the only place without cameras. He was shivering and holding an entire meatloaf, mouth full. I couldn't stop laughing.

12.) From [deleted]:

Watched a cashier ring up his friend and pretty much give him everything for free. Nobody likes the store but don't make it so obvious.

13.) From [deleted]:

I was a supervisor at a bulk food store. Had a staff member who was responsible for sweeping the floors. He would regularly snack on what he swept up.

14.) From Kamehamebwaaa:

A guy went for his lunch break and came back drunk. We were delivery drivers.

15.) From [deleted]:

HR hired an employee to work on the mine I manage. He showed up 45 minutes late wearing shorts and crocs. I proceeded to fire him on the spot. Got a framed letter from corporate jokingly congratulating me for having the shortest tenured employee in company history.

16.) From beer_hearts:

I had a girl that worked for me at a Mortgage Company pull the credit report of her ex-boyfriend's new girlfriend (no idea how she got her social security number) and then went on the girl's Facebook page posting messages about all of her debt, and past due accounts, and the crappy kinds of car that she drives, etc. Got an angry call from the girl who ended up being a pain in my butt for a while.

Edit: Forgot an interesting part - We fired the girl, and about a week later an agent from the department of Treasury comes in asking questions about the girl. Turns out, she was being investigated for a series of fraudulent things, including operating as a loan officer without a license, and taking out a bunch of federal student loans in her grandfather's name. He wanted information because in investigating learned that she had been fired from the company for some sort of malfeasance, and he wanted the details. She went to jail for a while eventually.

17.) From toppagelame:

I had an employee call and tell me her mother died. Well, I got an anonymous phone call from someone telling me she was lying so I called the number I had on file to send my regards and I get an address to send flowers. In the meantime the office had collected an envelope of money to help with the costs of the funeral and missing work. When I called, the mother answered and was shocked to find out her daughter used her death as an excuse to go to Vegas for the weekend. When she returned I help a big meeting with everyone in the office and presented her with the envelope of money and flowers, she took it and faked cried. I called her into my office to reveal that I knew and fired her and took the envelope back. She said she "don't give a f*ck" and left. H

18.) From [deleted]:

I once fired a guy and he tried to go back to work. His crush was in the clock in room when I had to tell him to leave again. He cried on my shoulder as I walked him out of the building. Not because I fired him but because I told him to leave in front of his crush.

19.) From Yerok-The-Warrior:

As a Sergeant in the Army, my unit was out on a two-week field exercise. One of my soldiers decided to drink a dozen boxes of shelf-stable whole milk. He gets sick and has to go back to the rear.

We find out later that he is quite lactose intolerant and knew it for years before going to the field. He bragged to some of his buddies about the scam and one of the other NCO's heard him. That started the investigation that got him demoted for malingering.

20.) From ill_sleepwhenimdead:

We had a guy that would vanish in the middle of the day for roughly 3-4 hours, then return at the end of the day. Come to find out he would go home during that time, play with his dogs, smoke weed and then come back to work. When we had to sit him down and explain he couldn't just leave, he totally flipped out and told us all to "go f ourselves and to f-ing fire him". He got a warning, and still works here, and HR still does nothing when he disappears.

21.) From icecreampopncereal:

Saw a dude fall asleep on a stand up forklift. How tired must you be to do that!?!?

22.) From 5MinutesDesign:

This guy always tried to hide at work to avoid working.

One day I was looking for him and I stepped into the bathroom. I notice a shoe print on the back of the toilet, and I look up and one of the ceiling tiles is pushed a little to the side.

I climb up there, and this mother f*cker is hiding in the ceiling.

23.) From BKP367:

Had an employee go for a drug test (mandatory for all drivers with a CDL). He used his 10 year old sons urine and warmed it up on the defroster in his car on the way to the test center. The center called and told us they were surprised he was alive. His urine was ~130 deg.

Needles to say he wasn't employed much longer.

24.) From sugaronmypopcorn:

Went out for smoke breaks like 5x a day, eventually got to a point where he couldn't wait to get outside and would light up in the elevator to get a head start.

2 days after that mishap he took his lunch break and came back very drunk. I think he worked a grand total of 7 days hired-to-fired.

25.) From Superschutte:

Took a temp job leading the Santa's Village at Bass Pro while waiting on my contract to start at my career job. The people you hire are usually...interesting. One girl on her first shift was on her phone as I walked back to the department. I wasn't in uniform yet but told her, "You aren't supposed to be on your phone on shift." She screams, "Who the F**K ARE YOU?" I walked away, clocked in, wrote her up, and came back to her with write up.

She turned out to be one of the better employees.

26.) From [deleted]:

So four of us are in a different country augmenting for a few months. I'm the dude in charge and one of the guys under me is a 21 year old starry eyed kid. He's partying pretty hard, but he comes to work and gets his job done so whatever, no big deal. One morning he doesn't show for work. I go to his hotel room and the cleaning ladies let me in as he wouldn't answer the phone or door.

He is butt ass naked on the floor of the bathroom snoring.

Cool he is alive.

27.) From UncouthPigeon:

We noticed that she was falling asleep a lot a work so that got all of our attention. She usually took ten minute naps through the day, which isn't a big deal because you can have breaks, but our alarms went up. One of the employees heard a crinkling beer can in the bathroom one day. Saw her come out the bathroom and checked the trashcans 10 minutes later. Beer confirmed. Also some weird blood spots on paper towels too.

We searched her belongings and found several other beer cans and a funnel. Noticed that she didn't have any alcohol on her breath.

Mfw we realized she was butt chugging the Miller High Life to get lit at work.

Kids cry about the darndest things.

But if we're honest with ourselves, kids cry over a lot of the mundane things adults secretly have feelings about. Since their brains are still in prime development phase, small kids are genuinely unable to hold back the floodgates of impulsive emotions, which means at least a few absurd meltdowns are inevitable.

As a response to the endless abyss of tantrums, the cathartic #whymykidiscrying hashtag has become popular, with parents, babysitters, and aunts and uncles jumping on to share the funniest and most bizarre reasons a toddler completely lost it.

Here are 20 of them to laugh at the next time you want to cry along with your kid.

1. We all empathize with the birthday blues.

2. TFW you have to walk.

3. When you realize you can't eat magnets, what's the point of even eating?!

4. Who among us hasn't cried over a beer denied?!

5. TFW Jesus won't let you take the wheel.

6. When all the oreos are gone.

7. One dog's food is another kid's treasure.

8. Do you ever feel, like a plastic bag?

9. When your nose is confiscated.

10. TFW mom won't even let you play with knives.

11. Fashion has emotional power.

12. TFW the milk finally arrives.

13. When you lose your connection to the glories of the laundry room.

14. TFW you can't get your Tylenol fix.

15. When mom won't chew on your spit-up food.

16. When you lose your personal space.

17. We've all cried over donuts at least once.

18. When you don't get to look your best.

19. When Santa snack-blocks you.

20. When the dog bone is too good.

The worst-kept secret in the world is that reality television is more "television" than "reality." But just how contrived is America's national pastime?

Reality TV alumni spilled the tea on shows from Cash Cab to Keeping Up With the Kardashians. Hopefully they're telling the truth and aren't Catfishes.

1. henfrigate blows the whistle on cake competitions.

Everything. Every single thing is fake. I was on a cake competition show. The judges recorded 2 takes for every comment, one positive and one negative so the editors could put it together however they wanted. They rolled the clock back an hour so everyone else could finish. We had over three months to plan our "spontaneous" cake. Oh yeah, and while we won by the judges vote...a producer decided one of the other cakes would film better for the big reveal so we didn't win even though we should have.

2. Jenny-Thalia needed a more tragic backstory in order to sing better.

Sob stories on singing shows - it's not the contestant's fault!

I made it through a few rounds for a well known singing show and they BEG you for sob stories. on my very first application form, I was asked about the most difficult moment in my life, what obstacles I'd overcome to be there, had I ever experienced bullying, etc.

They pretty much make you tell them a sob story. So I wrote all about my heartbreak when I ran out of coffee.

3. LinuxSuperUser8 discovered the "hotness first, premise second" practice.

I have a friend who signed up to audition for a show that she thought was "The Bachelorette", or something similar. I guess its standard practice to not give the actual name of the show, and just say, "We need good looking, energetic young women for blah blah blah."

So she got called back, went through a few different interviews and a screen test. Finally, they tell her that the concept is that she will be running a Pawn Shop with another woman. She is a dental assistant with no experience remotely related to the Pawn business.

"Pawn Queens" ended up being on for two seasons and they gave her a backstory about how/why she got interested in the pawn business. Not exactly SHOCKING, but it was pretty interesting to see that they basically looked for hot girls first, then put them into a proven concept ("Pawn Stars"-type reality show).

4. xXGARR377Xx says "list it" to lies.

My aunt and uncle were on "Love It Or List It" they had them record both endings and the network chose which one they thought was best. They are still in the house and they love it, but the show says they listed it.

5. gpenfish with some Top Chef tea:

In the very first episode of Top Chef they ever filmed, Tom Colicchio flipped out because the dishes the contestants had cooked were getting cold while the film crew took "food porn" shots of them. From then on, all the contestants have to prepare two dishes. One for the judges to sample, and one for the cameras to pan over and show the audience.

6. No way out, ogcoliebear.

I worked on a certain MTV dating show where one of the contestants tried to escape the house in the middle of the night, and one of the Production Assistants had to tackle him in the front yard and drag him back into the house. It's like prison, they are completely cut out from the outside world (no computer, books, phones, watches) and they are fed mostly booze. They all go insane.

Also, if the show doesn't air, they don't win their prize money. This is a standard for all competition reality shows.

7. KnotNotNaught ain't scared of no ghosts.

Not surprising, Ghost hunting shows are fake...

What is surprising is how they do it: see those fancy instruments they carry that no one has ever heard of? They're actually remotes, TO EACH OTHER!

All you gotta do is split into 2 groups and when one team is "adjusting their settings" the other team is "detecting ghosts." So simple and you get twice the footage.

8. seriousrepliesonly should be a more enthusiastic friend.

My friend was on What Not to Wear, and I was in the audience of people who were there to react when she came out from behind the curtain with her new look. She came out over and over again, but our cheering was never enthusiastic enough for the producers. After about 10 takes, we were screaming our heads off, totally hysterical, as if we'd just seen her rise from the dead. So that part was fake; I thought she just looked alright.

9. Divorce first, marry later, Butta_Butta_Jam.

My daughter and her boyfriend were on Divorce Court. They were not married, and the shows producers helped them tailor their story (which was completely made up) to be more interesting. They are now married and since they've already been "divorced", it should last forever.

10. What are the chances, FuturelyFamous?

Some friends of mine went on Cash Cab. One guy was chosen the day before and told to come with up to 4 friends to a certain spot the next afternoon. They met a producer who hailed the cab and were told they were going to "a game show". They had to reshoot getting into the cab because my one friend said something like, "what are the chances?! we're on our way to ANOTHER game show!"

11. Breaking news from StuTim: The Kardashians are fake.

Had a friend who worked on the Kardasians, they were filming a huge party. It was dead, no one doing anything. The producers asked of anyone had any ideas, friend mentioned beer pong. Producers made him act like a guest and teach the mom to play to make the party look fun. Everything is fake.

12. Hopefully Cueball61 is who they say they are.

Catfish is a semi-real. The production team call up everyone involved beforehand, do the research, etc as nobody wants to fly halfway across the US to a dead end.

Nev and Max aren't informed of any info the production team find though, they have to find it out themselves, so all their reactions are genuine.

I think once in a while the producers have swapped the Catfish/hopefuls around, when they want a good story, but overall it's surprisingly unscripted.

13. Hdirjcnehduek busts the myth that Mythbusters is real.

Mythbusters always claimed that their experiments are real and that the hosts wrote their own dialogue. But beyond that it's staged for TV. In the "tastes like chicken" episode they go to a butcher shop in SF to buy a bunch of exotic meat. Well fuck me, I want to eat that meat too so I go there to buy some. When I get there the meat is totally ordinary and they have no idea why I'm asking about the rare meats. Then I tell them I saw them sell the meat on Mythbusters and they said, oh yeah that was staged they brought in their own meat to film that.

Tl;dr Mythbusters not 100% real.

14. LizzardFish's acquaintance traded friendship for plastic surgery.

I knew a girl who was on MTV's "I Want A Famous F ace" awhile back. They made her confess feelings she didn't have to her gay best friend and she couldn't tell him it wasn't true until after the show aired. It ruined their lifelong friendship in the end.

15. muffintaupe with some good news, for once:

Probably no one on Reddit watches it, but Say Yes to the Dress. It's real. One sister and a few friends have gotten their dresses there, and while they didn't appear on the show (you get asked when you make your appointment), their experiences were the exact same as TV.

Yes, the consultants really are that personable. Yes, you sit where the show is filmed. Yes, the people on the show really work there. No, they won't show you anything outside your budget, and yes, they really do bend over backwards to find you discounts if you need one (like on the show.)

I know there are probably cheaper places to buy a wedding dress, but Kleinfeld's is gorgeous and exactly like it is on SYTTD. The only thing that might be "faked" is if girls/their family are told to be super picky about the dress for ~dramatic effect~.

F*ck most of TLC's other shows though.

The last person you want to hear say "oh sh*t," apart from your surgeon or your airplane pilot, is your tattoo artist. But everyone makes mistakes at work sometimes. Unfortunately, when tattoo artists mess up on the job, those mistakes can last a long, long time.

Someone asked tattoo artists of Reddit: "what was your biggest 'oh shit' moment?" Here are 23 stories, from tattoo artists and tattoo receipients, about body ink mishaps that can never be forgotten:

1.) From a_burdie_from_hell:

I have a friend who wanted to get what looked like an open wound on their leg, and the artist colored outside the lines, and tried to fix it by making it look like the wound was swelling, but it turned out to look exactly like a giant pussy. Clit and labia included.

2.) From Cusackjeff:

When I was getting my first tattoo, the artist was doing his thing and quickly turned around with the active machine in his hand and the clip cord got caught on my foot. This action ripped the machine from his hand and actually stuck him in the arm with the dirty needle he had been using on me. He was not happy. After a few questions about my medical and sexual history, he finished the tattoo. The funniest part is that the artist (strangely) didn't have a single tattoo on his body before I walked in, and now he has a little dot on his arm.

3.) From Fumar_mata:

Not a tattoo artist myself. But a friend of mine got drunk at a party a couple of years back. There was this dude with a tattoo machine at the party and my drunk friend either got talked into getting his first tattoo, or just thought it was a brilliant drunk idea, i'm not sure.
Anyways even in his drunk state of mind he figured he should atleast get a tattoo that he can cover up. So they decided that "face the facts" would be a rad tattoo on the side of his foot.
However when they were done the tattoo said "Face the face". It's still a running joke within our group and some friends of ours even named their band "Face the face".

4.) From TheArtisticLemur:

My friend went to a guy he knew that did tattoos as a hobby at his house. He wanted "UNFORGIVEN" tattooed down his forearm. They decided to get drunk and pop some pills as he is getting the tattoo. My friend passes out. He wakes up a few hours later and looks over at the tattoo guy who is staring at the floor with a look of defeat on his face. "I f*cked up man" he says. My friend looks down at his new "UNFORIEN" forearm tattoo

5.) From Hinxsey:

A bloke I know got "Such is life" tattooed on his shin, but they spelled it "Sutch is life"

Such is life, I guess.

6.) From badboystwo:

Ex gf got a tattoo on a whim. “Expect nothing, Accept everything” I was staring at it and it bugged me. Until I had the fun time of telling her that he wrote “Expect nothing, Except everything”

7.) From [deleted]:

"Philippians".

Only thing I've ever misspelled in over 9 years of tattooing.

It's the goddamn "Mississippi" of bible verses.

8.) From Iwanttobelieve691:

Friday the 13th we do a $20 tattoo special. I had been working for about 12 hours and I go to tattoo this girl. She gets Finn from adventure time and the word “thirteen.” As I’m tattooing the stencil starts to rub away and I realize I spelled “thirirt” and I stop and say out loud “oh f*ck.” I tell the girl and she agrees to let me cover it with roses. The tattoo turned out pretty good, and she has been back several times since surprisingly. I just can’t believe I misspelled “thirteen” on Friday the 13th when I had been tattooing it on people all day. There’s another one coming up next week and I’m dreading it. There won’t be any words on the flash sheets this year.

9.) From ralam:

A friend of mine wanted to get the famous Caesar quote "Veni Vidi Vici" (I came, I saw, I conquered) tattooed on his upper back.

It turns out the tattoo artist put "Veni Vidi Viri", which translates from Latin as: "I Came, I Saw, Men". I was a nerd in high school and happened to take Latin as an elective, so I called it out when I saw it.

Turned out to be an easy fix

10.) From Tingbudong123:

I got a tattoo of the map of the world that I got at the end of a world trip. Heard an ow shit half way thru...she accidentally starting drawing china. I specifically asked just for the outlining of the world and no countries but I had to accept it...weeks later I met a Chinese girl who is now my wife and mother of our kid. Tattoo artist must have know all along.

11.) From bigwig75:

My best friend is a sometimes tattoo artist and this happened back in 2004 I believe. A friend of ours wanted a tattoo for 9/11 and was getting the phrases “Never Forgive” and “Never Forget” on each arm. They were in this fancy old English lettering covering the full forearms. As he was finishing up the second arm someone said I think that they both say “Never Forgive”. It took a while and everyone kept looking at them. The font was really fancy so it tricked your mind but low and behold they were both the same. It wasn’t freehand there were stencils for both. We are still not sure how no one noticed till the end. To make matters worse the guy getting the tattoo was in a wheelchair as he was paralyzed from the waist down from a car accident. I thought he was gonna kill him. I remember laughing so hard at the time. It was so messed up. The phrase was so ironic in the moment.

12.) From kingtooth:

I woke up in the middle of the night, sat up, and said "oh shit" as I suddenly realized that 47 in Roman numerals is NOT written out "XXXXVII".. which is what I tattooed on someone earlier that week. I am usually really strict about my client, and usually also a coworker spell checking EVERYTHING, even if I'm 100% sure already. This dude have me a lot of trust and neither of us thought anything about it when I had the design printed out. I emailed him the next morning apologising, offered him a cover up or free work (I tattooed him before and we talked about more plans in the future.) He didn't even mind, and came back several more times for other stuff.

13.) From atari_bigby:

There was a section of the tattoo where stripes were being put in. At one point, the tattoer and I both realized the stripes weren't lined up properly and he looks up at me and exclaims "There's a glitch in the matrix!"

He fixed it up so you can barely tell but if anything the imperfection and hilarity of that moment make it better.

14.) From jonslastwords:

Friend of mine. Guy comes in wanting a horrid west coast customs style font on his leg saying "balling is a habit". Guy had given her the paper with the script on it. Did the tat. After she realized it said "balling is a hobit". So now that guy is walking around repping frodo like a gangster. In turn she says, "look I've worked my ass off for this job. I'm a tattoo artist. Not an English major. Proof read your shit." And damn she's right about that. But nothing makes me happier than remembering that little Iranian guy and thinking of him saying, "Damn dawg, Lord of the Rings real as f*ck!!!"

15.) From openequalsheavier:

Not a tattoo artist, but a friend of mine's dog passed away so he wanted to get the dog's name, plus "man's best friend" inside a bone. The tattoo artist spelled the 'e' in "best" backwards and tried to fix it, but it made it worse. At one point during this session he says, "oh, hang on, let me put my glasses on so I can see better." He also gave my friend the horrifying information that he can only tattoo while drunk. My idiot friend went back to the same guy for multiple tattoos.

16.) From TheBadGuyBelow:

My cousin now has to call his wife Maranda by a new name. Her new name is Marnda. They both checked the tattoo outline before and said it looked just fine. I don't think anyone noticed until a couple days after.

Edit: they fixed it https://imgur.com/O2mJAz6

17.) From TattooMarioB:

I've been tattooing for 25 years. Every artist who's been doing it for any length of time has a few skeletons in their closet. Misspellings, numbers in birthdays mixed up..etc.. It happens. A lot of the time the client doesn't catch it either..during the drawing, the stencil process. So sometimes it's not totally our fault. The trick is to know how to correct it. I've seen some doozies in my time. I've had clients give me the wrong spelling to their own kids names. A guy that worked for me at one time was doing a bible verse..ended one line with 'the' and the very next line with 'the'..there was only supposed to be one!

I thought I'd seen it all...until this little old man in his late 60s came into my studio a few years ago and wanted a portrait of his wife. Harmless enough, I thought. Then he said, " Can you add something to it?" I said sure, thinking her name..maybe some dates around it. Nope, I was way off. He said, "Can you make it look like she's being f*cked by a deer?"

..come again?..yep, I heard him correctly. He then proceeded to tell me a story about how he, his wife and a bunch of their friends went camping around here 30+ years ago. They were all out in the woods partying and camping for a few days. One early fall morning his wife, sans clothing, left the tent to walk back farther into the woods to use the bathroom. As she's squatting down a male deer jumps out of nowhere and tries to get on top of her! She freaks out, rightly so, is screaming, the deer is kicking and freaking out too. The old guy tells me he hears all the commotion, jumps out of the tent and sees what's happening...and "All I could do was slit it's throat.." WTF?! I'm thinking...the wife or the deer??

I can only imagine this scene. But I'm also thinking this is a very tall tale. Until he comes back for his appointment and brings the wife and the group of friends and THEY ALL retell the story exactly the same way. They thought it was hilarious that he wanted to commemorate that event! I did the piece in kind of a cartoony 50s pinup style..she was topless with a surprised look on her face with tall grass around her with a deer behind her that had his hooves up on her shoulders..a puff of steam coming out of his nose like a 'snort'...so everything is implied...I gotta keep it kinda classy. But right before I started, he asked me, "Can you add one more thing?.." I hesitantly asked what it was. "Can you make it look like the deer dick is going inside her?"....!

I had to say no on that detail. He got the tattoo, the wife loved it, the friends laughed and a good time was had by all. I took one picture of it and put it on my website for about a week then took it down. It's been lost since then and I looked on all my devices hoping I could find it and post it here. A friend of mine found it on one of those f*ckeduptattoosdotcom sites so it's floating around out there somewhere. Sorry for such a long post and maybe not quite the "oh shit" moment OP meant but I hope you enjoyed it.

18.) From turnbone:

Tattoo recipient here. I went to get a tattoo on a whim. It was to be my second tattoo, which was a silhouette of a western hemlock Douglas Fir, the same one that is in Oregon's license plate. Pretty straightforward. Guy prints out a stencil and applied it to my arm, and gets started on it. Right off the bat, I notice he's pressing pretty hard, and there's more blood than there was during my first tattoo. I don't say anything because I haven't had this much filling done before, I think maybe it's normal. About half way through, this guy comes up reeking if weed. Says something along the lines of "hey man, I'm about to leave. How much longer you gonna be?" The tattoo artists says "just a couple more minutes. It won't be long." Then he starts going faster and pressing harder. This is the oh shit moment for me. Maybe ten more minutes pass before the weed man comes up again. "Hey dude, I really gotta go. You almost done?" Homeboy kicks it up another notch. To wrap things up, I ended up with a scarred arm, round blobby tree branches, and he ended up with no tip.

TL;DR Research tattoo parlours before you go, even on a whim.

19.) From twoheartedgal:

My best friends uncle was a real one-upping douchebag. The kind of guy that you're surprised his name isn't Chad. Constantly bragging and talking down to everyone. Which makes this even funnier.

He went to get "sacred" tattooed on his body in multiple places. Across his chest, and on both arms. He came over the next day to show off his new ink to the whole family. And there he was.. A gigantic "Scared" tattooed across his chest. Everyone immediately started laughing. They even showed him the stencil. He okayed it. He truly thought that was how you spelled Sacred.

Sometimes life knows how to bring assholes down a notch when its necessary..

20.) From JapaneseStudentHaru:

I knew a guy who did really bad tattoos. The kind of guy who gives out tattoos for like $20 and bought a kit off Amazon with a small how-to booklet. He sent me some pictures of his stuff trying to recruit me as a client. He posted new stuff every week and was so proud of it. I thought it was horrible though. He did a tattoo of a grim reaper that's sythe was so crooked it was pretty much a half circle shape. The rest of the drawing was pretty bad too and it was ALL BLACK.

When I told him it looked like shit he gave excuses as to what went wrong. He said he got high and that gave him jitters or something. Then other times he said he was drawing a picture his client drew. Doesn't mean you can tattoo crooked lines.

21.) From offtonowhere:

Not a tattoo artist, but I had my own oh shit moment after getting inked. I have a tattoo of a hand holding a flower on my thigh. The night I got it, I got home and was admiring it when... I realized it looked a bit off. I counted the fingers... 1, 2, 3, 4, 5... f*ck. There were 6 fingers. The way the hand was positioned it was hard to tell at first so neither I nor the artist realized in the shop. She later fixed it by turning the 6th finger into a leaf. This was by a very well known and respected artist at one of the best shops in New York City.

22.) From BradC:

Tattoo artist misspelled the name that was going on my shoulder, underneath another piece that was already there.

Fortunately, it was when he drew the name on my skin with a pen first and then he asked me to check it before he got started.

23.) From BlakAcid:

Not the artist, but a recipient.

My artist and I were designing a chest piece involving Odin's wolves, Geri and Freki. One would be on each pec facing outwards.

He sketched something up and sharpied the wolf on my right pec. A few hours in my artist stops, looks discerningly at the sketch, back at me, back to the sketch and says: "I did not draw nipples on the sketch...".

I'm a little confused and my girlfriend at the time screeches, starts clapping and laughing and screams "HE'S BITING YOUR NIPPLE!!!" And sure enough, my artist had not taken consideration of anatomy and and now a wolf's mouth was biting at my nipple.

What makes it so great is when my skin stretches lifting my arm and the wolf looks like it's opening its mouth and closing it. I love it!

My tattoo artist and I went to the same art school for college and were really good friends. With the exception of one, he's done all of my tattoos. I've gotten tons of compliments about the pieces I have that are more visible. I didn't get mad when he tattooed a wolf biting my nipple because my sense of humor is, at times, askew and I think it's hilarious.

Edit: here's a link to an album with the tattoo in question. And a bonus of some other pieces my artist did. :) https://imgur.com/gallery/UiZ9J

Oooooops.

Dealing with in-laws can be incredibly stressful, particularly when you don't get along and they have boundary issues.

How are you supposed to navigate a cloying mother-in-law who is obsessed with your partner, but ultimately stresses you out? It's a delicate balancing game, since marrying someone means you're signing up for their family, but also shouldn't force you into triggering relationships.

In a recent post on the Am I The A*shole subreddit, a new mother asked if it was wrong for her to rush out of the hospital after her mother-in-law turned up against her wishes.

AITA for walking out of the hospital very soon after giving birth when my husband brought his mom in?

OP kicked off the post by sharing that her husband and his mom are extremely close, and the lack of boundaires has proved difficult at times.

My husband and mom have this weirdly close relationship which has been a source of conflict before, usually when he has trouble telling her no.

During her pregnancy, OP made it clear that she only wanted to give birth in the presence of her husband, so she could have some time to rest before the parade of family visitors.

When I was pregnant, I told my husband that I want it to be just us two in the hospital and we could have friends and family over the house later.

So, when she went into premature labor and had a rushed birth, OP assumed she would be able to rest and process the birth in peace.

I went into labor prematurely, and my husband rushed us to the hospital in my car. It was unexpected. I gave birth without an epidural because I couldn't get one with the timing, it was the hardest most painful thing I could imagine.

I didn't get hardly any time with our baby at all before the doctors and nurses had to take her away and I was just laying in bed feeling awful, in pain, feeling like "did I do something to make this happen?" I had some risk factors like stress and a past struggle with disordered eating that's left me at a low weight.

However, moments after she gave birth, OP's mother-in-law rushed into the hospital with a barrage of questions.

Then suddenly my husband's mother came in, asking where the baby was, asking a lot of medical questions like how premature, had I been resting enough during pregnancy, how was the baby. That really hurt when I'd been questioning myself so much also.

And my husband was just talking her through it all even though I had told him nobody but us in the hospital.

When OP said she wanted to be alone with her husband, he compromised by stepping into the lobby with his mom, claiming it would "just be a few minutes."

I spoke up and said I wanted to be alone with my husband to rest, and he actually said that it'd just be a few minutes, they'd step out to the lounge. I didn't feel any better, I didn't want to be alone and I didn't want her possibly pushing back into the room.

This upset OP because she explicitly wanted to be with her husband, not alone.

Now onto the questionable part...

In a flash of fight-or-flight, OP got on her clothes and made a break for the parking garage.

I should explain I grew up in a pretty abusive traumatic environment and that's given me the defense mechanism of just running when I am feeling scared or overwhelmed. It's something I'd thought I'd gotten past with therapy but I guess that moment I was feeling worse than I had in a very long time.

I got up, kinda zoning out the pain because I felt so anxious. I got covered up with my long winter parka and pulled on my boots, and grabbed my purse and made a (slow) break for the parking garage.

OP ended up passing out in the car, and a nurse found her and coaxed her back into the hospital.

I got to my car and by the time I was there the pain had really set in, I felt dizzy and was scared of passing out if I drove, so I just laid across the backseat.

I lost track of time before a nurse found me, and at that point they brought me back inside and put me in a private area for treatment.

It's been a month since then now and it's caused so much trouble.

Since then, OP and her husband have had several difficult conversations about what went down.

I'm upset my husband didn't keep it to just us.

He says that he didn't know how serious I meant it; plus with the premature labor it was like all our plans for how my birth would go were out the window. His mother was just concerned.

OP's husband claims her behavior was destructive, while OP feels her husband was insensitiuve and not listening to her needs in the moment. Her mother-in-law has doubled down on relationship tension and now claims OP is unfit to be a mtoher.

He's also really bothered I left, he said it's serious destructive and I wasn't thinking about my own health or safety.

His mom has said that I seem too instable to be a mother.

AITA for walking out?

fluffyfeistybeekle doesn't think OP is TA, but does think she needs to get help and cut off her mother-in-law.

NTA. You're not an a*shole for walking out, but you need to get help. It wasn't a safe thing to do for yourself or your baby. Your husband is the real asshole here, who decided to ignore your wishes and bring his Mom into an intimate and vulnerable moment. You're the one who's had her body ripped open, your wishes matter the most. He needs to cut the cord with her. Time for a serious conversation with him.

Stormrse doesn't think OP is in the wrong, and hopes she is able to set boundaries and get support for her anxiety.

NTA -Not at all. You went through a traumatic experience, childbirth is hard enough under normal circumstances, when there are complications it can send even the most psychologically healthy person into a spiral.

Your husband stomped on your boundaries, and is now trying to gaslight you by saying you didn't expresses your wishes seriously enough? That's not even a thing! You told him your wishes, he should have checked with you first. End of story.

Also, having anxiety and/or PTSD symptoms does not make you unstable or a bad mother, just in case you're taking that comment to heart. If that was the case 80% of the population would have their kids in foster care. You're going to be a fine mom, because you obviously care about your little one, hence the anxiety.

bmoreskyandsea thinks OP and her husband should attend couple's therapy, stat.

NTA.

And please lay very clear ground rules for your husband, especially in terms of setting boundaries with his mother. Please both attend therapy.

He says that he didn't know how serious I meant it.

That's a problem. Unless there is a big history of you not saying what you mean, he needs to take your word for it and have zero subjective analysis of how "serious" you meant it. Even with that, he should have asked.

I hope you find the peace you need. And deserve. (and MIL shouldn't get any visitation until you are comfortable with the boundaries you have set AND she stops disparaging you.)

Psykopatate thinks OP should take a deep look at her marriage.

Your husband is a full a*shole, no shades of grey, it's a full black picture. His mom is invasive.

They both could have caused severe consequences, what if you started driving?

Straighten your husband, NTA

"His mom has said that I seem too instable to be a mother."

And his mom can f*** off, your husband should act like one.

It seems clear the internet doesn't blame or villainize OP for her actions, but that there is a serious need for couple's therapy and boundaries with the mother-in-law.

“Happiness only real when shared.”
― Jon Krakauer

Marriage is a give and take. You give a lot of hell and you take some too. These memes perfectly nail what it's like to be married. Enjoy these laughs for as long as you both shall live.

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“Our perfect companions never have fewer than four feet.”

-Colette

Having a pet is the best feeling in the world. The second best feeling is laughing about memes about having a pet. Grab your fur baby, cuddle up, and crack up at these pawesome memes.

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For once, something positive came out of a Reddit interaction, and comments on an "Am I The A**hole?" post encouraged the poster to finally seek out a therapist.

greengurgich asked internet strangers whether or not it was a jerk move to not invite her parents and sister to her wedding because they didn't seem sufficiently excited when she made the announcement.

She wrote:

I got engaged last October. I went down to meet my parents with my fiance to tell them the news. My older sister was also there. I told my parents I was engaged. They are all "omg so exciting". Not even five minutes later my sister says she also has an announcement and she announces that she's three months sober. All attention shifts to her and my mother starts fawning over how great my sister is doing and how proud she is. Everyone just glossed over my engagement and the whole evening just became a celebration for my sister. I felt really sh*tty and like I wasn't important to my parents and I ended up leaving early. I messaged my mum later and she just replied with something about how they all knew me and my fiance would end up married anyway and how my sister was *really* trying this time.

The background: her sister had been using for years, so the news of her sobriety was more surprising than the news of an engagement:

My sister has been struggling with addiction for many many many years now. She's had a few stints at rehab and then relapsed. She has since relapsed again. This is nothing new. I understand she is struggling and even on that night I was cautiously proud of her but I can't help feel help feel that no matter what I do or how much I try I will never be as important as her and her issues to my parents.

When it was time to send out the invitations, the bride hadn't forgotten about that moment:

So when I invited people to my wedding, I did not invite my parents or my sister. I never "officially" uninvited them or anything, I just never send them an invite or kept them updated on what I am doing. The day before yesterday I get a call from my mum who found out from my aunt asking why she and dad hadn't received their invitation yet. I told her there is no invitation for them. She kept saying that she doesn't understand and they don't want to miss my big day. I told her that I don't feel she cares enough and would rather her and dad not come and that they *knew* I was eventually going to marry anyway so it doesn't matter anyway and hung up.

My mother messaged me saying I was being petty. So did my dad, sister and my grandma. My auntie and my fiance are the only ones who understand but they also think I'm being harsh. I just don't need this anymore.

Should I invite them to keep the peace? AITA for not inviting them?

The top comment came from KatFrog, who ruled, "NTA (Not The A**hole) because it's your wedding day. But OP? You need to get some therapy to help you with the resentment you feel towards your parents and sister. It's bad for you to be carrying around that much negativity."

Most commenters reiterate the same message, which inspired greengurgich to write an update:

"Showed this to my fiance and he doubled down on his opinion that I should see a therapist and it doesn't matter who the [a**hole is]. I think I'm going to listen to him and stop going crazy," she wrote.

She also added additional context about her sister's addiction, which started when she was 13 and her sister was 21.

But it is extremely draining to always be the reliable, understanding and mature one. It's draining to constantly be someone's cheerleader. Especially when you started playing the role at 13. It's draining to always bury your feelings about whatever you're going through because it will never be as important or urgent as my sister's situation. It sucks to feel selfish and guilty all the time for even feeling bad because whatever I'm going through can never be as bad

I do resent my parents to an extent. I resent that they asked me to go to college close to home and give up the opportunity to go to my dream college cause it was too far away and cause I couldn't help with my sister if I was out of state. I do resent them for putting that pressure on me and just expecting it of me because otherwise I'd be selfish and uncaring. I resent that they didn't come to my graduation. And for missing the other stuff that I thought were important achievements/milestones in my life. It's not nice to always be an afterthought. It's not nice to always get my hopes up to be disappointed when they don't seem to care about anything that happens in my life. It's jarring to see how my fiance's parents are with him.

Damn, it's hard to write someone off as a "Bridezilla" now that we know their thoughts, feelings, and deep emotional pain.

People who work in the food service industry get an up-close look at the bizarre and particular demands many people have as far as what they eat and how it's prepared and served. Menus exist for a reason, but many customers choose to view them as merely suggestions. Instead of choosing from the options clearly laid out before them, they bring their own imaginations—often coupled with a raging sense of entitlement—to the table. (Can you tell I used to be a waitress?)

Someone asked waiters of Reddit: "what's the most ridiculous order someone's placed and how did you deal with it?" These 19 heroic servers share their customers' most absurd and off-the-menu orders:

1.) From Aeorik:

I worked at a national pizza chain for a while as a manager. We used to get this guy who would order all the time. He was lactose intolerant so couldn't have cheese, and had severe heart burn when he ate red sauce. He would order an XL Supreme with no sauce and no cheese. I told the guy if i did that, the toppings would just fly all over the box but he didnt care. We ended up just baking the dough separate from the toppings and put the toppings in a small wing box on the side for him. Guy said no other pizza place would do that for him and he turned out to be a great repeat customer who always tipped well.

2.) From stylinghead:

Not a waiter but a cook. Had a lady order her tofu scramble burnt. So I cooked it hard. She sent it back because it wasn't burnt enough. So I cooked it harder. She sent it back again and the waiter said she really wants it burnt. So I got a wok super hot, put too much oil in and proceeded to burn the crap out of it. My chef came by and lost his shit. I explained it to him and he watched me burn just ruin the thing. It was black and smelled like a tire fire. She ate all of it and said we were the only place to get it right. She came back every weekend for it and we had to train new cooks how to burn the living fuck out of her food for her. I still can't comprehend why she would eat that.

3.) From dudervoog:

I once had a guy place his order, and then say "And give me one of those spaghetti appetizers."

I had been working there for a couple months, and we had no pasta dishes whatsoever on the menu. I politely tried to clarify this, but he wasn't having it. He just kept getting more irate. He insisted that he eats here all the time, and he always gets the spaghetti appetizer.

Eventually, he gets up from his table, storms over to another one, and points at what he wants on another diner's table. He was pointing at their cole slaw. And yes, as far as he was concerned, I was still the asshole for not knowing what he was talking about.

4.) From Notsocreativeeither:

The strangest request! When I worked for Starbucks, I helped open the first drive thru store in the area so it was a learning process for some customers.

A lady orders in the drive thru lane an iced venti vanilla latte with 22 sweet n lows.

Me: 22 sweet n lows, like two two??

Customer: sigh yes 22 sweet n lows.

Me: OK, please pull up.

Now at the drive thru we put the extra milk and sugar in the drinks for the customers, when in a cafe they would add it on their own. So, the person working the bar looks at me like for real this lady wants 22 packs of sweet n low in her latte? That's what she said so that's what we made her.

They lady pulls up and pays for her drink. I hand it over and tell her to have a nice day. She stops and says "oh, can I get those sweet n lows now?" I just looked at her and said that they were already in her drink, boy was she pissed!!

She wanted us to hand her 22 packs of sweet n low in the drive thru so that she could take them home.

5.) From crigsdigs:

I worked at a pizza parlor, and the most ridiculous request was one that could have been so simple.

A lady calls and orders a "small pepperoni pizza with no pepperoni" I clarify and ask her "So just a small cheese?" To which the woman, clearly annoyed by my lack of understanding , says "NO. A small pepperoni with no pepperoni." I again clarify and ask "You want a pizza with sauce and cheese only?" "Yes." "Ok so a cheese pizza." "NO I WANT A SMALL PEPPERONI WITH NO PEPPERONI."

We made her a cheese pizza. She didn't call and complain. Still not sure what the fuck she thought she was ordering.

6.) From MonkeyInATopHat:

I had a woman call me back to the table because I didnt place her nachos close enough to her. She asked me to push them closer to her.

7.) From llkylej15:

Customer asked for a spaghetti with a side of more noodles and extra sauce because they were going to share. So, I said "you'd like one spaghetti and then an additional order of spaghetti?" They told me I wasn't getting it and they just wanted extra noodles and some sauce on the side. I told them we would have to charge for extra noodles, and they ended up not wanting it. They somehow thought free spaghetti was a reasonable request.

8.) From Poopy_shoe:

Had a lady order our filet mignon, when it was brought out to her she said with disgust that she had ordered the filet, not a steak. She proceeded to argue that a filet mignon was a type of baked potato rather than a steak.

9.) From Ice_Burn:

When I worked at McDonalds some one asked for a Quarter Pounder medium rare, light ketchup with and extra toasted bun. It was a very slow time and we were all amused by it so I made one for him. He came back to compliment my cooking. ETA: This happened in 1980. We used real grills and spatulas to cook the burgers then. We didn't know about e coli in ground beef. I made it by cooking it a little less than normal so it was still safe in any case.

10.) From ezekielragardos:

I worked at as a server at a ritzy country club on cape cod and this women once brought in a paint chip and told me she wanted her cosmopolitan to be the exact same color as her pink paint chip

11.) From scatterbastard:

Oh how I miss my old regular.

We are not a fine dining establishment, it's a small family style Italian restaurant.

This lovely gray haired gentleman would call ahead so that we could put a salad bowl in the freezer for him. After that I would go to his spot at the bar (or the closest one open to it) and set a large dinner napkin down (that he placed his salad/meal on). I would then place an empty wine glass with a napkin over it (per his request), just in case the dinner napkin didn't specify that the seat was taken.

Once he got there I would go to the back and make his specific salad: Very little lettuce, extra mushroom, extra tomato, extra onion, no shredded cabbage, and no cucumber.

That would be after I get him two ice cold beer glasses for his 70/30 sweet/unsweet tea mixture with an extra glass of ice.

He would then attempt to engage in a 5-10 minute conversation about our specials for the evening, and how he could alter them.

The guy came in between 3-6 nights a week and always tipped fairly. He was the kind of nice old guy that would get you and your wife birthday cards because that stuff was important to him.

He then moved 45 minutes away and we never see him anymore. Miss the hell out of that old man though.

12.) From I_Dont_Live_Here:

One couple in particular made the chef rage so hard she just walked out. Wife orders some meal and makes a ton of changes to it. She gets the plate takes one bite and sends it back because she doesn't like it. Husband orders $60 lobster plate. The lobster tail comes with pepper sprinkled on top. The husband sends it back and wants a whole new one with no pepper on top. Apparently his wife wanted to try one piece but doesn't like pepper.

13.) From Shanelol:

As a waiter at a coastal restaurant, we occasionally had dolphins come in the harbor right to where people would eat. These two old ladies came in and before they placed their orders, demanded I release the dolphins for their amusement. It took a good 10 seconds of silence before I realized they were serious. I passed this request onto my manager and then continued to eat free jumbo shrimp.

14.) From finishrampant:

It wasn't so much the order that was disturbing, but the post order request. He asked me to chew up the food and put it back onto his plate. No medical reason. No missing teeth. Not old. Just creepy as fuck. He got very upset when I declined.

15.) From Rock_Hound:

I had a 4 top once that one of the gentlemen was ordering and asked for extra onion, and he made extreme emphasis on EXTRA ONION. So I go to put the order in and I have to talk to the chef to make sure he understands EXTRA ONION. So when the order comes out, I get a side plate of a cut WHOLE ONION. I giggle and take the order to the table. I put the orders of food in front of all the other guests and leave onion man for last. I set his plate of food and extra onion down, he looks up at me and starts laughing. The whole table is now laughing. Im like dafuck? Apparently wherever they go, no matter what he always has to ask for MORE onion, and this time my snarky chef nailed it.

16.) From Rock_Hound:

I had a 4 top once that one of the gentlemen was ordering and asked for extra onion, and he made extreme emphasis on EXTRA ONION. So I go to put the order in and I have to talk to the chef to make sure he understands EXTRA ONION. So when the order comes out, I get a side plate of a cut WHOLE ONION. I giggle and take the order to the table. I put the orders of food in front of all the other guests and leave onion man for last. I set his plate of food and extra onion down, he looks up at me and starts laughing. The whole table is now laughing. Im like dafuck? Apparently wherever they go, no matter what he always has to ask for MORE onion, and this time my snarky chef nailed it.

17.) From he_shootin:

I used to work at Whole Foods as a juicer and this one guy would come in everyday and order 12 ounces of garlic juice to go (which is like 20 dollars btw). After a couple weeks of seeing him order the same thing I asked him to drink it in front of me because I didn't believe it was humanly possible to ingest that much garlic. He downed it all in front of me and said this "along with much garlic comes much loneliness" i laughed and he said "no seriously I work from home".

18.) From [deleted]:

I worked in fine dining for a while.

I had one lady order creme brulee french toast with a fruit loops crust and a bottle of champagne with 2 carafes of orange juice.

We made it. Actually we made a whole batch and the workers ate it. It was actually really good.

19.) ​​​​​​​From quokka_808:

"I'll have a cold grilled cheese please" -so, uncooked? "no, cook it, just serve it cold"